My fiance is pregnant and REALLY snappy with me, is this pregnancy or does she hate me help i'm worried!?
2006-09-13 00:24:55 · 15 answers · asked by 0bnsgrl0 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It's probably just the pregnancy. Just grin and bear it, you have to be understanding that there's a TON of hormonal changes going on...just ride it out...
2006-09-13 00:32:49 · answer #1 · answered by The ~Muffin~ Man 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pregnant women can definitely be stressed and snappish. Their hormones are all over the map, their stress level is at an all time high, their body is changing and doing weird things it's never done before, she's tired to the point of exhaustion, sore in places she didn't know she had, nausea is a factor for most women and not being married is just another thing to toss into your fiance's mood swing!
Being pregnant is lovely... but the most frightening experience in the world. She's probably got concerns about her own health, the baby's health, the stability of YOUR relationship, the pain of childbirth, if she'll do okay as a parent, if YOU will do okay as a parent, if you'll ever really marry her if she messes this up somehow... she's probably so overwhelmed with all her feelings... physical and emotional... that she's not able to be her normal self right now.
Please do your relationship a huge favor and do whatever you can to comfort her and help her to feel secure, no matter how difficult/impossible she's being right now. She has the weight of a child's life on her these days... and it's a huge responsibility and can be overwhelming at times. You might try asking her... in a quiet moment together... if she feels worried about anything... and see what response you receive. Let her know that it's normal and natural to have concerns about everything right now... but that you're right there with her and you'll do everything you can for her and the baby and you love her more than ever.
My best to you and to her... and congratulations on your impending arrival :)
2006-09-13 00:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in her shoes; first off they won't fit because your ankles are swollen, and your legs ache and your stomach, uterus and boobs are growing (do you remember when you were a kid and got "growng pains?" the kind of phantom pain that was there but couldn't really be described? well, there you go) You're constantly tired, yet everyone is expecting the exact same thing out of you; your boss still expects 110%, your family wants to be "involved" your friends want a piece of you and your fiancee is worried that you "might hate him".. If you didn't have morning sickness, you're lucky, but it still may be coming. You hate the thought of the foods you love, and only want food that's disgusting. On topof that there is a vital concern that you may not be ready for motherhood, and how will you know what to do, and will you EVER be able to slepp again.... You're constantly thirsty, but even more constantly having to go to the bathroom.
Oh, wait I'm sorry, did you actually ask if your "snappy" fiance was acting normal? Yes, Because one can clearly see this pregnancy is all about YOU. Just keep going with that frame of mind and you'll see what "SNAPPY" can really mean.
2006-09-13 00:42:00 · answer #3 · answered by Sidoney 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have nothing to worry about. Its just her hormones acting up it is normal while she is pregnant. Try just keeping her calm and comfortable. Get involved with her pregnancy show her your there for her. Go to her doctor’s visits so you know how your baby and fiance are doing. You can ask the doctor’s questions just as well if you’re not for sure about anything. If she is doing parenting classes you can get involved too those are really fun. I just want to say congratulations on the pregnancy.
2006-09-13 00:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
During pregnancy women encounter a variety of Hormonal changes. Depending on other factors, you can expect them to change like the weather.
It is important to decipher if your fiance is happy about the pregnancy. Are you two emotionally and financially prepared to care for this child.
What child care arrangements have been made?
Will either of you be forced to leave your jobs?
Are your parents supportive?
Some women gain weight during the second or third trimester of pregnancy. Maybe she doesn't feel attractive.
If she doesn't want to be held or engage in intercourse will you supportive? Don't pressurize her into having a conversation.
You need support as well. While surfing the web, find books that will give you information on how pregnancy affects women's moods. Take care of yourself and your family.
if you need to talk you may send me an email. ok?
2006-09-13 00:41:51 · answer #5 · answered by nubianbx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal, her hormones are all out of whack. Just love her, and tell her how happy you are that she is the mother of your child. And, if you haven't already, get and read the book "what to expect when your expecting" that will help answer a lot of questions. As well as delight her that you are taking such an interest in what is happening to her body.
2006-09-13 00:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by cyunos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being pregnant is really hard ,its hard on your body and its hard on you mind so no its not you and she is normal,try to help her more around the house and make shore she gets rest and treat her nice ,she will swing from a crank to a crying mess and back to normal all in the same day ,hang in there its amazing to hold that baby ,
2006-09-13 00:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lol. No, she doesn't hate you. She is worried and her hormones are raging, plus she's probably uncomfortable, too. Just grit your teeth and smile. My ex husband used to say he never knew what to expect when he got home, either crying or yelling or both or something else. Lol. It's normal. Just try and be nice to her. It's hard to be pregnant.
2006-09-13 00:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
LOL. Don't worry and bear it with a smile, it's definitely her pregnancy! Caused by her hormones she cries with the left eye, while she laughs with the right one!
2006-09-13 00:45:59 · answer #9 · answered by montanus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, she dosn't hate you. He hormones are off the charts and she really dosn't know how to control them yet. Just keep her as happy as possible. Give her some time and she'll snap right out of it. Until then just love her and give her your full attention.
2006-09-13 02:02:09 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋