We decided to add spice to our relationship and try swinging which has proved to be fun.
Now my dilemma is my last day of my period was on the 30th of july and i think i ovulated on the 13th/14th now me and my bf had intercourse about 5times on the 13th to and all the time leading up to it. Then on the 14th we done our swinging and well the guy i was with the comdon split.. i know bad.. anyway me and the dp contuined to have intercourse on the 14th eve.
Now am worried that i might not know the father.
Im thinking it is my dp.. im not a **** or anything but i was wondering what u lot think
2006-09-13 00:07:03 · 20 answers · asked by amber d 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well, sounds like you need to stick to one man and then you would know. The only thing you can do his have a test done when the baby gets here. Not sure what else to tell you.
2006-09-13 00:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
During pregnancy, they take samples from the baby to determine the potential for retardation, mogoloidism etc... If you are planning on keeping the baby, I would discuss doing a DNA test on these samples and compare them with your boyfriend's DNA.
My gut feeling is that since you aren't married, both of you are just screwing around to your heart's content... he can do so with little thought... you on the other hand have to be more responsible or you put yourself through a wringer.... pregnancy with no responsible father. Your boyfriend, nor your swinging partners are going to stand up and take any responsibility. Heck, I would ASSUME any girl I was swinging with would be amply protected from pregnancy regardless if the condom broke or not! I would be using a condom more from the STD standpoint more than the pregnacy standpoint.
The interesting part is that you knew you were at your most fertile moment and you did NOTHING to protect yourself. I guess mysteries over who's your kid's father is fun too. My bet is that you are going to end up a single mom and regretting your actions with every passing day. I just hope for the baby's sake, that he or she is absolutely adorable so that you have something to be proud of and treat well.
Swinging sounds like one heck of a lot of fun... but you are also responsible for yourself and must take appropriate action. The pill would be a good start and understanding that you could have gotten the morning after pill the day all this happened too. Stupid girl, very stupid... fun but stupid.
2006-09-13 00:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by Les 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm am sorry if this sounds mean but i think you should not have been sleeping with more than one guy that is what is wrong with the world of dating and marriage these day anyone will just go screw whoever and its no big deal.all you can do is get a paternity test when the child is born and don't guess because its not fair to the man or the child to do that you don't one man raising the child and finding out 18 years later its not his biological child.
2006-09-13 04:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by samwise25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you get what you ask for .your man knows you were with this guy so whats the problem ,talk to him about it and make the decision together as you both decided to swing.If you are even pregnant. You will have no clue who the father is and so you have to deal with that its no good trying to kid your self into thinking you know .my advice to you is ,if your not pregnant and you decide to continue swinging ,then get more contraception ,go one the pill or get an implant ,because condoms break.And when the time comes that you want to have a baby don't swing any more ,its not worth the pain of not knowing.
2006-09-13 00:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could nicely be happier no longer understanding who the daddy is. between the risks you're taking having a threesome unprotected is being pregnant. Has your boyfriend been wondering you in this? if so, you opt to have a paternity attempt ASAP after the start. If he's not wondering it, than enable nature take its direction. both way, the authentic ingredient is you want the youngster even with the way it change into conceived or who the daddy is. desire this enables.
2016-10-16 00:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by fenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its pay time baby, you do the wrong you get the wrong, what -people think we are more genius than God - no way - He is the greatest and can finish us in a second for not obeying Him (as anyone having powers do mostly) but He is too kind to let us live and do all this mess that He order us not to do. He actually gives us achance to learn from our mistakes and if we do the same again then plz dont blame Him!!!!!!!!!!.
May God Bless You!
2006-09-13 03:06:13 · answer #6 · answered by Precious Soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, dilemma. The best I can think of is have a paternity test when the baby is born. It is also possible during the pregnancy. Just ask your doctor. Talk to your boyfriend. He needs to be there for you. You decided to do the swinging thing, mutually, right? He'll understand. Good Luck!
2006-09-13 00:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by Margaret S 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is a tragedy for the child you have conceived. This is exactly why this sort of activity is frowned upon by God and society. The only way you will know is to have paternity testing done when your baby is born.
2006-09-13 01:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by alone1with3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd get tested for STDs too. What is the use of using a condom if you are going to continue without one? You could be pregnant, have an STD or both. The whole idea of these type of sexual practices is to practice them SAFELY. When you don't, you are just adding to bigger problems: disease-spreading, for one and fatherless children for another. I'd say (and I don't mean to be rude) that if you are going to be so careless maybe you just shouldn't do it anymore. It's bad enough that you could be spreading diseases but to involve a helpless, innocent life is even worse. If that guy would go at it with you without a condom, I doubt you are the only one. You should remember that.
2006-09-13 00:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
this sounds unreal?
do people really do this?
when I get bored or want to spice things up, I dye my hair, get a hair cut, buy new lingerie. Bringing another person in?
But I dont want to be unpolite, so your best bet is DNA,I guess you'd know if you slept with a white man, and a black man, it'd be much cheaper. LOL
2006-09-13 02:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing is to get a DNA test. Otherwise, just go on for now, and find out later. If the father wants to know, then you could ask him to pay for the DNA test, as he has to cooperate and give his specimen to determine it. If the one you pick does not pan out to be the father, then you can assume the other one is it, if you did not have sex with anyone else. He still might want a DNA test however, as he has to be responsible for the child until it is 18 yrs. old.
2006-09-13 00:11:12 · answer #11 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋