2006-09-12 23:43:15 · 35 answers · asked by jodo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
shed a tear and move on, you cant force someone to love you
2006-09-12 23:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
When someone you love leaves you you have to get yourself out of the box and look at it from a different perspective: number one being the person wasn't right for you no matter what you may have thought before this happened. Then you might give in to the pain, disappointment, anger, maybe jealousy, panic because your wordl had suddenly fallen apart. But the bottom line is that if the person left you for having no feelings for you, it's only onesided and it would have been just the matter of time. It might take time to get over it, depending on your own understaning that your life will go on. You can get over it quick if you are able to organise your future plans, you find something big and exciting, you won't remember your loved one tomorrow IF and only if you set a big goal and you sort out a real feasible plan of how to get yourself there. Then you try to remember what you have had before, some small things form the past you may have forgotten about, or had no time, or grew out of. You go there, you get the old feeling back. You also try to see what you have not done before that you dreamed of,and see if you can now. You go out with old mates, new people, enjoy it a little, maybe even a lot. You try to help others when you can which makes you feel great, better give than take, a lot.
Another option is you are sitting retched feeling sorry for yourself, and thinkingn how someone youloved could have done it to you.
Option number three will be harder than the first two: if you think you have a chance try to win him/her back.
2006-09-13 00:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just close that chapter of your life and start the next chapter without that person. Why? Because its not the end of the world, is it? You have made a mistake, so what? Learn from your mistake and go on with your life!
After some time, you will realize that you were not truly in love with that person! You will be happier and you will meet someone who respects you for what you are. That's life. Just learn to accept the truth.
2006-09-12 23:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to this is never easy. The only thing I can offer to say is time works. Trust me it took 4 years to get over my fience leaving me. It's never easy and thats why alot of people simply dont do it anymore. In time you'll find a way that works for you. I know it's not a good answer or the best but it's the only way I as a non professional therapist can come up with who's been in your situation.
2006-09-12 23:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by hawk63_us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are loads of really annoying things that people say to you when the love of your life has just left you
* there are plenty more fish in the sea (but i want THIS fish)
* you'll meet someone else (i don't bl**dy well want to)
* you need to just get over him and move on with your life
Please note that these words of wisdom usually come from someone who has never been in love, or those who have been in love still have THEIR partner. So anyone about to rhyme one of the above off to someone, just don't bother cos your 'advise' is about as useful as a chocolate fireguard! Basically, they are just hopin that you'll stop being miserable and snap back to your old cheerful self. It simply doesn't work like that. You're hoping for a quick fix to get over it but there isn't one. You just have to get on with life as normal, as hard as that is. Go out with friends or do something that will distract you from thinking about him/her 24/7. In time, it will get easier. It won't go away, but life gets a bit more bearable
2006-09-13 00:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by mother knowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Presuming you know the reason why and there is no hope of the two of you getting back together, then I am afraid you have to move on and get on with the rest of your life. To help you get over it, get rid of anything that reminds you of that person, focus on the bad bits of the relationship and have no contact with them whatsoever. Go out instead of sitting at home moping and in time you really will get over it and find someone who will love you in return. Good luck.
2006-09-13 01:23:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Erase their no from your mobile so stop lookin at it to see if they text you! Next go out and party like its 1999. Just keep yourself distracted from the pain or thinking about the situation. Try and think of all the things they did that annoyed you or you thought was wierd and concentrate on that, after some time you'll stop feeling this way about them! I promise! It takes time of course but like i said keep busy and maybe make some changes in your life...start a new chapter...love hurts but life of course goes on!!
2006-09-12 23:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by Becky H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want the relationship then you have to fight for it. Relationships are not easy by far. If you know that this is the person that you want for the rest of your life and you can deal with everything that they can or cannot offer you. Then fight for it. If that doesn't work then it is time that you start thinking about you and getting yourself over a heartbreak.
2006-09-12 23:47:19 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetcheeks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it sounds, he does not want you. Try and mend your broken heart. The pain will ease eventually and then you can start feeling normal again. Then just like that you will meet someone who is right for you. Good luck.
2006-09-13 00:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by Gill T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will wish her all the best and may good things come to her in life. And move on with my life. Life is too short for regrets so i won't waste my time sheding tears.
2006-09-12 23:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by The Inquisitive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cry for a bit, smoke a bit, talk to your friends, and then get on with life. Love yourself and you'll be ok.
2006-09-12 23:45:35 · answer #11 · answered by Sampter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋