I have a 4 year old daughter and hv seperated from my hubby. He doesnt even want to keep in touch with the baby . how do I help her to not feel rejected ?
2006-09-12 23:40:09 · 6 answers · asked by Ice mother 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a hard one but the most important thing is to make sure she knows that the break up wasn't because the two of you didn't love her and that you still love her very much. I'm afraid as for the scumbag that is her father, you can take him to court to pay maintainance but forcing him to see her when he doesn't want to - I don't think you've much hope here. Is there anyway you could speak with his friends or family who might make him see cutting his ties to his child is not a good idea?
Otherwise unfortunately I think the only option left to you is just to cover for him when she asks about him. Good luck.
2006-09-12 23:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by weatherwax1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately she's likely going to feel that way regardless what you do, especially since he doesn't want to keep in touch with the child. I know you know the usual. Tell her it wasn't her fault, express your love for her more frequently, etc. Just try to talk to her and let her express herself. And no matter how you feel about him, DO NOT put him down in her presence and do not allow anyone else too. This will only hurt her further. Do whatever you feel you have to do to allow her to adjust to the new situation and try not to rush things. This will take some time. Good luck (you'll need it; this is a heartbreaking thing for any parent to witness).
2006-09-13 07:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I am not sure why your hubby wont keep in contact. Might be he cant handle seeing you and his child because of the hurt of having to leave you both. Could be guilt. He needs help for sure because his head is all messed up.
You also should seek counseling for you and your daughter. You can find experts on how to handle this. Don't guess get help and you need to try to keep contact with her Dad and try to get him to see his daughter. Your daughter cant do it so you need to keep trying for her sake.
Get professional help for you, your daughter and hubby if you can.
2006-09-13 06:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the library in your area, you would be surprised at the amount of children's books that are out there for these kinds of situations. This is what I did when my children's grandfather was passing away (I know its a different situation). Other than that, spend time with her, love her, try to keep her life as close to normal as possible.
2006-09-13 06:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by cyunos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accompany her always...don't say anything bad bout her father..allow her to keep in touch with her father..so that she would feel that the divorce didn't interrupt your hubby's and your loves to her..
and last, love her even more than before..
2006-09-13 06:51:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to keep in contact..
2006-09-13 06:41:11 · answer #6 · answered by Frankie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋