Would YOU Trust Someone Who............?

Question

1) Never makes eye contact??
2) Has a weak handshake??

Answer 1

I wouldn't have a good impression of that person based on those two things alone, but they could be insecure and have a good heart. You would have to talk to them and spend some time around them before you knew if you could trust the person.

Answer 2

1) I knew an old professor who had done consecutive interpreting at really important conferences most of her life and was giving lectures at the most respectable university in my country. She was considered a most reliable and trustworthy person, yet she never looked people in the eye - even when she examined a student or gave one a detailed explanation about sth, she would look aside. They said about her that avoiding eye contact came as a result of her profession which requires a lot of concentration on what you hear and quickly deciding what you are going to say.

2) Many people who use their hands in their profession - e.g. musicians, artists, surgeons are careful when giving a handshake and there is nothing wrong in them. I have a very close friend who is a piano-player and she would rarely shake hands and if she does, it's a weak handshake, yet she is one of my best friends and a very nice person, indeed.
When I was introduced to a doctor who was about to operate on me in a few hours, I noticed his handshake was rather weak. Anyway, the man did a great job and the operation was a complicated one. I can only be thankful to him for saving my life.

To sum up, one's profession (besides many other factors, actually) very much defines one's body language. Body language definitely affects he way people think of you. But giving 'positive signals' can be a matter of training and practice. People who go around with 'promotion stuff' and try to sell you crap are very well trained to never lose eye-contact. Such people are rather common where I live. Politicians everywhere, I think, are always very much aware that they shouldn't give a weak handshake, shouldn't avoid eye-contact, etc (positive signals), yet do they all turn to be trustworthy in the end?

So, my answer to both your questions is: I could trust such a person. My criteria for trusting someone go further than a handshake and eye-contact. (By the way, when I was a teenager, I could never look in the eye people whom I really loved and would do anything for, just because I was very, very shy... Not so any longer, fortunately :)

Answer 3

I learned with experience that you never should and now I don't! I always make I contact and give a good handshake. Many old people have a strong handshake compared to young ones and some blind people give the same feeling as eye contact when communicating!

Answer 4

You can't really judge someone souly on a weak handshake and not making eye contact. That could be due to low self esteem, but they could still be very trustworthy people.

You have to get to know someone before you know you can trust them. As the old saying goes, never judge a book by it's cover... or in this case, the firmness of their handshake.

Answer 5

1. Depends on what they are doing with their eyes. If they are shifty, then probably not. If it seems to be someone with low self-confidence, then I might trust them.

2. I don't know anyone who has a weak handshake that was especially untrustworthy. Many of the women I know who don't shake hands heartily turn out to be real witches, but not necessarily untrustworthy.

Answer 6

Absolutely not. Eye contact is key to appearing trustworthy and confident. A weak handshake, to me, isn't a symbol of mistrust.

Answer 7

I think everyone deserves a chance before judgement. If you get to know him and don't trust them that different than not getting to know them because of a weak handshake, or whatever

Answer 8

never makes eye contact:

depends really, cos if i talk to some asians and pacific islanders, they usually do not look me in the eye cos they reckon it's quite offending. but i sorta not trust people who can't look me in the eye, and people who look too much in the eye, if they do that whilst defending themselves, for example, they are LYING as well.

has a weak handshake:

sure would...but it would take me quite some time to trust these people, i suppose. but who really knows, maybe they're just shy and stuff, doesn't really mean that they cannot be trustworthy.

erm....i wouldn't really rely on mere gestures to determine whether i can trust a person or not, that's just me, i dunno for yous people. peace.

Answer 9

i do no longer particularly agree..... construction down have confidence is a significant difficulty for me. because of the fact as quickly as have confidence has been shattered, the dating is ended too. So, till now I enable this have confidence being destroyed, I study heavily all parameters, all circumstances, all opportunities. i do no longer end relationships basically in seconds. I provide credit, I take my time. no longer too plenty besides!!! yet, I attempt... And whilst ultimately I end that there's no wish, that the guy isn't user-friendly, I stroll out the dating without guilt in any respect, no no longer user-friendly thoughts. because of the fact i understand I actual have given all the possibilities accessible and that they proved incorrect....

Answer 10

dodgy eyes switch on a big neon light that says 'DO NOT TRUST WHAT I AM SAYING'.....

I think a weak handshake signals lack of confidence more than deceit...