can a straight guy and a gay guy be really best friends? anyone in a similar situation?
well my best friend recently told me he's gay.. i was totally shocked i cannot accept it because he showed no signs of being gay... until he confessed it to me about a week ago.
so do you think that a straight guy and a gay guy can still be best friends? anyone in a similar situation?
2006-09-12 22:17:25 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Since when has friendship depended on a person's sexual inclination?? Of course you can be friends.
2006-09-12 22:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well men and women can be best friends so I don't see why not. Friendship really doesn't depend on sexuality.
You may be feeling uncomfortable but that's not because your friend is gay it's because it's a huge change in your friendship. Just remember that his personality hasn't changed in any way only your view of him has, so once you come to terms with this news then everything should be like it was.
2006-09-13 05:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by Emma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course they can be friends...
He's always been gay, you just didn't knew. He's not different than before he told you. You just think so... (because you never thought of him that way)
If he is really your best friend talk to him about it. If you are worried he wants more from you, you'd better ask him straight away, to avoid complications in the future... And if he is really just a friend he will understand why you asked. Cause real friends can talk to eachother about everything...
2006-09-13 06:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by Eyeline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it can be ok. He will hit on you though if you guys party together. That's the only time I've experienced problems. Think about if you had a single best girlfriend. You drink together, have a heart to heart, hug, maybe close-talk, and sometimes that guy might try to plant a kiss...Same situation, except you're the girl now. And likewise, sometimes it can ruin a friendship. Or, they live happily ever afer. Be careful...
2006-09-13 05:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why couldn't you be friends .. he is still the same person you knew prior to when he told you he was gay. It shouldn't change your feelings or the friendship. As a friend, you should be supportive
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-13 05:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is only theoretically since I've got no gay friends (as far as I know...), but I'd say that of course you can be best friends with a gay person.
It's not much different to having friends of the opposing sex - my oldest and closest friend is a girl I've known for 18 years (and no - none of us wants to have sex with the other)...
2006-09-13 05:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by Mr Jones 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes , and why not . See this is absolutely liking / disliking of an individual and we have no right to command others to behave or live like us if we need to be continue as a friend . Friendship means , we two individuals likes each other and ready to help ,in case of, there is any emergancy and love to share our success , joy and happiness with each other .
2006-09-13 05:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can. Friendship is friendship. Just because he has chosen to come out of the closet doesnt mean that you are someone he wants to be romantically involved with. Dont treat him any differently. If he has been your best friend then he still is. Nothing has changed in him except for his sexual orientation.
2006-09-15 02:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol that reminds me .. my old best friend was gay.. we lived together and everything.. blah bla.. don't worry about him hitting on you.. or other **** like that.. it won't happen..basicly we were friends from 7th grade till last year when we stopped talking.. in 10th grade he told me he was gay.. im now 19.. it didn't bother me.. as long as he never hit on me.. it also never dawned on me that he was gay because he always made fun of gay people so much and claimed to be super conservative.. anyways if you guys are true friends it wont matter.. anyways goodluck
2006-09-13 05:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you can as long as both of you accept each other and respect the fact that you and he are different in personal relationships.
i had a girl friend that confessed to me she was gay and it did not make any difference in our friendship....i respect her and she respects me and have been friends for over 30 years...we are like sisters and very close......it works ok for both of us
2006-09-13 05:23:51 · answer #10 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes I don’t see any prob to it… its depends whether they can accept eachother from being different… But to me, it doesn’t matter… as long as both are truthful friends and always there when you are in need… I see no prob to it… but just as long as the gay knows his limits and dont get all funny with me, i'll cool with it.. i mean he must know his limits and understand that i'm straight and i dont want to have anything form of relation other than just pure good friendship... as long as my gay friend has no motive and is pure in his heart to be my friend...i'll be very glad to his friend too!
2006-09-13 05:23:16 · answer #11 · answered by Faradoves 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋