im 7 months pregnant and we have a 16 month old daughter. he works all day and im at home with her. i do everything including cooking cleaning, i get up with her 7 days a week sometimes at 6am or before. he doesnt get why im tired!!! how can i get him to help me out. the baby im pregnant with also is laying on a nerve which makes it incredibly painful to even walk yet he still insists on me doing everything!! am i being unreasonable by asking him to help out some times, he makes me feel like i am and that he doesnt appreciate me!! HELP
2006-09-12 22:15:41 · 21 answers · asked by dopeydora2001 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
maybe it might help if you brought him to the doctor next time you go for a scan or whatever - if he hears about the fact you're in pain and need rest etc, he may get the reality check he needs to start helping.
Failing that - explain to him that you physically cant cope with the amount of pressure you're under and whilst you realise he does a full days work etc that you NEED his help - tell him you 're putting your babies health at risk by working when you're this tired and in pain and that he has to pull his weight.
no offence but he sounds like a selfish git - I cant believe he thinks you're being unreasonable.
2006-09-12 22:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband works too, what makes you think that his job is not as hard as yours? Do you own the IP on being tired? We are all tired honey, but we just get on with it. If single mothers can do it, I'm sure you can too.
Having children so close together, you knew it was going to be hard work.... but that was you and your husbands choice and maybe more discussion was required before embarking on such choices. Can you not put the 16 month in a couple of hours a day at a nursery to give you a break?
There are lots more solutions, and while it's true your husband could help you more, try helping yourself too.
2006-09-13 05:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by Ellie29uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he does need to go to work to support you and your child! And the one soon to be there! But I understand what you're saying, I've never been pregnant but I'm sure it's much more stressful && tiring to take care of a house, a child, being pregnant, and still trying to manage for yourself. Just sit your husband down and really explain to him how it is affecting you and could be a potential threat to your baby because of the stress. Also maybe try to get some outside help such as house cleaners, babysitters, etc. If your boyfriend still doesn't realize that right now your well being is more important, than I suggest finding a more sutable man for your life, and make sure he remembers to cover his pecker next time if he doesn't want to have to stand up to juggling a job and helping his woman. Good luck to you!
2006-09-13 05:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by *Elle Marie* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never put up with that. You have every right to ask for help. If he doesn't want to go hungry he will soon cook, if he needs clean clothes, he will soon wash them, if he don't wanna walk on a dirty floor, he will soon sweep it!!! My advice is go on strike! If asking nicely doesn't work then you need to go to more drastic extremes. Don't over work yourself, rest and only do bare essentials! If that doesn't work, pack his things girl, its time he realized your a person, not a slave and he needs to compromise or else he can leave. Stay strong & good luck!
2006-09-13 05:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is really very selfish, i really pity u, i just had a baby a month ago and i have a 20 month old baby and a 5yr old so i can understand wat ur going thru, but in my case my hubby was 100% supportive, he did almost all d house work and bought a lot of take aways when i could not cook. take things easy do not try to be a super woman, u might end up with depression.
2006-09-13 05:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by gal-next-dr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a selfish w**nker. Tell him to pull his weight don't ask him. Why can't he get up at weekends? I look after my son while my wife works and the only housework I do is the washing up, cooking and vacuuming. We take turns to lay in on weekends i.e. one day each. Put your foot down.
2006-09-13 05:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by Harv S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not, stop cleaning up after him I had this problem with my children I had pelvic dysfuncion which I couldn't walk you try looking after 2 small children and the home. Get your boyfriend to help more stop cooking for him concentrate all your energy on your daughter and yourself!!
2006-09-13 05:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by jules 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being extremely selfish and uncaring. My solution would be to look after yourself and your daughter and do nothing for him whatsoever. If he complains, just tell him you can't do everything, especially as you are in pain, and something had to give - him!!! Good luck, hope everything goes ok with the birth.
2006-09-13 05:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax, you can't be doing so much while ur pregnant you will make yourself, and the baby ill. You are not being unreasonable.
Stick to your guns girl and get some rest
2006-09-13 05:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by Nimsay 06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
book yourself a weekend at some nice SPA, have some relaxed time for yourself.... but, you have to cope with let him in charge of your 4 years old just for few days...
that way, you will feel better and more relaxed, and he.. can get the picture, how tired to look after a demanding little one...
2006-09-13 05:38:33 · answer #10 · answered by Pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋