Im separated with four children and just recently got a new phone, returned my old phone to hubby. He asked if he could have my number so he can call the kids, but I told him you can call the kids on the residence phoneline, should I or should I not?
2006-09-12 20:55:53 · 16 answers · asked by Hawaiianlady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it's a matter of trust for your ex. It's possible there might be good reason for him to have the number. If there is an emergency and he can't reach you at home, you might need to give it to him.
However, if you suspect that he has an another motive in wanting the cell phone number, then trust your instinct. If you think he has any passive-aggressive tendencies, then definitely don't give it to him. I have been harassed by my ex to the point I had to change my cell phone and never tell him. Go with your gut.
2006-09-12 21:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by Tiramysu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, because of the kids, he should. However, if you happened to get a second cell phone and you kept the other with you constantly as well, then there's no reason for him to have that one. But what if something happens to someone in his family, like his mom or dad, or sister, whatever, maybe even to him, and you have taken the kids out shopping or out to eat, and it's an emergency? The kids should be able to have contact with him in that case. Maybe you even go take them somewhere for the weekend. I don't think that's fair to the kids to be like that. It would be one thing if you didn't have the cell phone at all or if you couldn't afford it, but since you can, just try to be understanding and look at things from the kids point of view. They probably love people in his family and would need to know as soon as possible in some cases.
2006-09-12 21:02:58 · answer #2 · answered by t.larae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the number for emergency purposes only! Tell him it is specifically for emergencies regarding the kids and not a routine chat line or way to track down the kids or yourself. Tell him the kids phone is at the residence and his calls on your cell phone are unwanted unless it is a true emergency. Tell him you are moving on with a new chapter in your life and wish only to communicate with him if it is in regards to the kids and then through the home phone unless a bonifide emergency. If you don't give him the number you run the risk of a child getting hurt and you not getting notified in a timely manner.
2006-09-12 21:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I am sorry but you need to think clearly instead of being a b itch to your soon to be ex.
If he has your children with him for the day and something happens that he needs to call you and your not home. How do you expect him to get a hold of you? You and your ex are the parents and you should be able to contact each other when needed. You have a new cell give him the number.
Stop thinking of ways to make it difficult for him and start thinking as parents that need to communicated for the children's sake.
2006-09-12 21:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Residence phoneline only. No need to give your cell phone or he might just use it to hassle/plead/beg you. Better leave that alone.
2006-09-12 20:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really up to you. It's your personal cellphone, you are not required to give it to him. If it makes you feel better, let him call on the house phoneline.
2006-09-12 20:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by ginger13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what kind of person he is and how well you 2 get along. does he drink too much sometimes? you need to figure out for yourself if there would be a possible link for harassment there. also if you do make sure he knows that if he breaks your rules the number will be changed and he will never get the new #
2006-09-12 21:01:35 · answer #7 · answered by jason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should give it. You never know when there will be an emergency, especially if he is with the kids and something happens to one of them. Just because you're divorced doesn't mean you have to be complete strangers.
2006-09-13 09:22:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave him the right answer to talk to your kids. However you might want to give him your new number but not right now. I'd wait until your are divorced for he may drive you crazy if you give it to him before it is finalized.
2006-09-12 20:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by peterwayne007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't! it's your personal number. just give him the house phoneline.
2006-09-12 21:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by lette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋