What do you do with all of that emotion,its not something you can turn on and off like a tap
2006-09-12 20:01:06 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hi Amanda, I think if a person truly loves someone maybe deep down they have a fear of the other person maybe one day not loving them anymore,so it may not come as a shock. I usually think of the bad things that can happen,if ever things are going well for me,I'll think this is too good to be true,it's bound to go pear shaped sooner or later, when that "Dear John" letter arrives it's always a shock to the system.You're right you can't turn that tap on and off,once you've turned it on it's hard to turn it off.
2006-09-13 03:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Genuine love can not die . No one can tell you to stop loving a person. It is nothing wrong to still love a person even the other party stopped love you back.
Love doesn't ask for return .
But the person who receive no return love anymore has a hard time to get used to it.
How can you forget so soon when there is still love. Hence, you have to be very determined to not to burden the one you love .
If you really love that person , you don't want to see that person unhappy , or guilty. because you can not forced that person to love you back again.
Let go of that person, try not to go to places that have chance to see him / her. To avoid reminder of the pain.
Time is the best medicine. Take up all your strength , courage and determined to make it works. Meet up with friends , join clubs , do readings, watch movies , go for exercises , etc . these will help you to reduce the pain of lost love.
in case you bump into him / her , control your emotion and learn to face him / her like a casaul friends , greet and go , don't
linger too long , because don't want to rekindle the hope , which may lead to another round of pain.
You can learn to love another person, get married. Even when you are old , you may still love the one you first loved. Its just that it does not work out. And also not a betrayal to the one you married because the first one came first.
And you deserve a big tumb because you are able to love another person , get married and live a happy life .For all those families members, close friends who love you will feel proud of you.
2006-09-12 21:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by Blue Shadow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually nobody could stop you. Love is very subjective. The key is yourself. If you really want to forget someone then carry on. Tried to socialised more, make new friends possible. Give love so that love will come back to you. However you can still love them if you are ready to take the risk. No harm if you can managed yourlife with. But i like to tell you there's nothing you can do if you choose this and risk your potential will in the long run. Life goes on. Either you Live or leave with it, of course its up to you.
thank you.
2006-09-12 20:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by Quween 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move On
You Can't Force Love
There's Better Man Out There
Good Luck
2006-09-12 20:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by Singapore_Lady 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well naturally you would be hurt. But the best thing to do would be to let go & carry on with my life. You could possibly love that person for the rest of your life but never forget that you can love someone else & actually be happy. We never love people the same. We love different people in different ways.
But I'd rather know the truth that they didn't love me anymore than to keep it to themselves & just live a lie.
That's a complete waste of both of our time.
2006-09-12 20:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by paigenstuff 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I have been through it (this year in fact) & it ain't something you'd wish even for u'r enemies.To go through that pain, feelings of rejection, all that love bubbling inside & not knowing what to do with it? Oh, it's bad.
I erased his number so that i wouldn't call him during those sad intoxicated moments, then I stopped listening to love cds for some time till I was sure I cauld without wailing away. My friends also helped me alot & most times, I would go visit my sister & just hang with her baby twins.
Reading the Bible inspired me to stop feeling sorry for myself & I moved on, eventually I got over him. And guess what? He came back months after I was over him, calling but he realized I lost interest. Hope it works out for you.
Ps. Fenny, that wasn't funny!
2006-09-12 20:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by Luvy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you cant turn emotions off but if someone doesnt love you anymore you have to walk away for your own dignity and pride and get on with it, if someone falls out of love its the same they cant change their emotion either.
2006-09-12 20:06:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to turn it off babes, just put it on mute; let the silence be a test to see, if this person realizes how much you love them, as it is said: if you love someone let them go.
Love is not suppose to be possesive, and we don't own people with our love, so if some one wants to walk away from you, LET THEM, your future is not tied to anyone who leaves you.
Should this person, really feel that your love is worth fighting for, or returning too. TRUST they will return, its just YOU have to give them their space to do so.
That's when we learn to love someone from a distance.
At least you can walk away knowing that you were true in "your" feelings, even if they were not. That says a lot.
True love never dies. its just evolves. Besides its kind of hard to give all your love to someone, who is not in a position to recieve.
A lot of times people go through things that have NOTHING to do with you, trick is, we've got to let them go through it ... alone.
Hang in there.
2006-09-12 20:23:51 · answer #8 · answered by * Deep Thought * 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's happened to me, twice. I can think of no quick fix, I'm afraid. As the old folk song goes, for one year I wept full sorely, tore my hair and wrung my hands.!
Time was the only solution. Gradually, like the vampire Lestat, I became something like my old self again.
What made things worse was the expectation by my ex that I could just switch my emotions, and we could become good pals overnight. She even wanted me to socialise with her new partner.
2006-09-12 20:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by Avondrow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For example, friends, continue to love them. They will remember later how you've been so loving to them.
But for someone else, a lover perhaps, let time fade the feeling away and move on. You'll definitely find someone to give you the same love you give... or even more.
2006-09-12 20:11:05 · answer #10 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋