everyone at my school teases my friend because they all think he is gay. Most of the time i think he is 2... not that i hav nething against homosexuals. But the thing is.. I don't think he realises what everyone thinks and i hate seeing him get hurt because he doesnt know what their laughing at. How can i tell him what they are laughing at... and to tell him to ignore them and not to worry.
2006-09-12 19:57:04 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
without hurting his feelings
2006-09-12 19:59:28 · update #1
Tell him and be honest.
And tell those jerks to grow up already and don't
hate.
2006-09-12 20:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by Kim 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People in high school always 'join the bandwagon' when they see the other piranhas feeding. They can destroy a person's confidence in an effort to climb the social ladder. He may or may not be gay, but I wouldn't let anyone's opinion determine what you thought.
As far as telling him anything, if he is unaware of some of the things people are saying about him, let him be unaware of it. Telling him will only hurt him. The only way you should tell him about such things is if you hear about someone planning to physically assault him.
It's a bad situation and a lot of kids go through that.
2006-09-13 03:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by Candidus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not then let him prove it to every one like making have sex with you or some one school and spread it but don't make up any story it has to be true.And go to him and tell him the truth and be a good friend and if he act like a gay tell him that he is and if he dresses like one then tell him and bring him shopping. And just maybe if you have sex with him he can be the right one if you don't have a boyfriend and if you are a good friend you would respect that.Always be there for him and if no girl would have sex with him you do so, please and one more thing don't say it in front of every one bring him some where privite and don't say it too harsh.
2006-09-13 03:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by dollyfacesash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to have an intimate and sincere discussion with him.Tell him that you will be there for him no matter what. tell him that you hate because he has to suffer from the laughs of his collegues and you just want to help him. No matter what the answer is tell him to control himself, cause everyone suspects him of being gay. You could give him some tips about how to act more like "striaght" guy.Good luck!Communication is the solution of all problems!
2006-09-13 03:08:31 · answer #4 · answered by Nightswan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So basically there is no way of telling him, without hurting his feelings. But if he is a true friend, he will understand coming from you. Kids are stupid, heck, adults are stupid. Anyone that cares about stuff like that, well they are fake. A true friend doesn't care. Just make sure to let him off easy, and tell him that you still care about him, and not to let it get to him, because usually the people that judge you are actually just jealous =]
2006-09-13 03:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by lil_troublemaker1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a common practice of fun amoung the people esp. young boys, when they get together they jock-teasing somebody..
Do not bother about it...
Do not tell him anything...Better tell the teasing people to stop it.. I believe he know that others are jocking at him... HE IS JUST IGNORING (Keeping quiet, because he know there is not problem then why he want to fight to others..)
Just forget it... things will be OK, as he grow-up...
Even if he is gay... do not tell him anything, because by telling you can't make him different.
2006-09-13 05:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by SA-bic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, what makes those people think that your friend is a gay? You should know that first then try to explin to your friend that the reason behind the teasing is because of his gestures or whatever the reason of those people whoe teases him. Then frankly ask him if he's gay because you said yourself he doesn't realizes these. Then whatever his answer, accept that and just be a friend to him. ^_^
2006-09-13 03:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by Jowi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are his friend, then be honest with him. If he is truly a gay, then at least things are clarified. If he is not, and just act that way, then you can probably help him to fight back a little.
It is a dangerous thing to constantly let someone under attack. You can see when some people are making fun of him so badly and cause him beginning to make fun of himself. If this happen, you need to help him out...
How funny, those people who talk craps in this forum are probably confused buttf***ers who are gays and are afraid of admitting it? Just like in American Beauty?
2006-09-13 03:00:47 · answer #8 · answered by tienyutai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg i had a friend like this too.. but he ended up coming out of the closet and now he is okay with everything... your friend probably knows what they are laughing at, like my friend did... if not.. def. let him know because u are his friend and he'll know that even if the whole world is laughing at him, you will still be right next to him by his side... easy way to let him know is just be like.. look ive been hearing a lot of teasing and rumors about you and i thought u shoudl know because you are my friend.. but make sure you say it nicely and make sure you let him know that those kids are just ignorant immature jerks that dont know any better and only act like that because their parents grew up as ignorant retards as well... if ur friend turns out to be gay.. then nothing shud change.. u shud reassure him that you'll stay friends with him regardless... and if he's mature enough to understand, he will realize wat a great fuckin friend he has...
2006-09-13 03:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by watnow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk about gender nonconformity, and how it does not mean someone is gay and you do not agree that everyone that has a gender nonconformity will become gay like everyone thinks so. The science is not always correct with what they want people to believe.
2006-09-15 23:50:18 · answer #10 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell them what these people are doing.
If hes gay he might tell you.
If hes not gay then maybe he can start chenging the things that are gay-like his walk or the way he talks.
Maybe hes just a mommas boy.
Either way you should tell him that people dis him cause they think hes gay and let him handle it.
2006-09-13 03:35:23 · answer #11 · answered by ♥♥Peas♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋