I have given my life to impressing men! Is that right??

Question

I have devoted my life to looking go so i can try to find a sexy man for me.

Im constantly trying to loose waight, get a 6pack, and making sure i look nice, and have nice clothes on to impress and look good.

If all this effort im going to 2 much??

I dont want men to just like me, i want them to think god im glad 2 b with this lad. Or i feel crap.

haha. I know it sounds wierd. But i cant stop myself from trying to look good!!

what should i do??

thanks

Answer 1

Wow! I am exactly the same way! I just got back from the tanning beds, trying to get that golden god look. LOL
I too am constantly trying to lose weight and get ripped abs and nice pecs.
And let me say that i don't think there is anything wrong with what we do. We are not hurting ourselves or using harsh methods to become so fit. It makes us feel better both physically and mentally and it does attract more guys, i don't care what anyone says because it does!
I say keep doing what your doing if it makes you happy. You will soon have all the boys wanting you sexy! Keep it up!

Signed Aaron

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with doing all of those things, you're just doing them for the wrong reason. What is most attractive in a man is confidence. If you're doing this just to impress other men, you've got a self esteem issue. There is more to a man than how he looks. Plus, if you look too good, people won't take you seriously. People will see you as a doll, not a human being with a mind and a soul.

Now if you were doing these to better yourself, and JUST yourself, it would be a different. You don't only have to look good, you have to feel good. People who care too much about how they look aren't comfortable. They are always worrying that something doesn't look right or that one hair is out of place. If you look good, tell yourself so, without getting concieted. Take compliments gracefully, and your confidence will go up. Once you've achieved that certain confidence, you'll find people flocking towards you. Its undeniably sexy and irresistable.

Answer 3

Just being involved with your looks is kind of shallow. You'll probably attract men that are shallow. Why don't you give your inner person a boost now and again, I'm sure you have some lovely inner features that are dying to get out in the open. They will help you get along when the wrinkles start kicking in and the pounds start adding up. Nothing more sexy than a man who is at peace with himself.

Answer 4

I have always said, "If people can't take me at my worst, then they can't take me at my best". If I'm not all "prissied" up or just don't care about makeup, then so what. I know, even for me, it takes courage at times. But, you know what... I find it really doesn't matter. Real people are going to look at and find you a real person, not just on your outward looks. And that is what you really need. Do you always look at a person because of their outward appearance or do you listen to what they have to say and how they act. The outward is so superficial. If the relationship is worth anything, you are going to have to find something worth more than outward shells.
Sounds as though you might be a little insecure about yourself.
Make alist of your possitive sides and dwell on that and don't think someone else is going to fill in the gaps...you have to.

Feel good about your positives and dwell on those!!!

Answer 5

I would say you have "some" problem, though I don't mean serious one...
I think i can understand you and speaking of my own experience I should say, if there is any problem in such behaviour and way of thinking this may be as follows:
1. You lack self-confidence, though you are trying to hide this by looking good... The emphasis you put on the way you look is a protective mechanism intended to hide something inside you. This may be your homosexuality. Unconsciouslly you are probably trying to impress so aas to be accepted, and you may not realize it, but you are probably afraid of being condemned as a homosexual. (notice!!! I am speaking of possibilities, I dont blame younot trying to label you!!! please take note of that!)
2. Another reason, basically the same as the previous one, lack of self-confidence, may be rooted in deep loneliness and as a result you are trying to associate yourself with the best looking persons... so as to become part of some group.
Both cases are bad for identity. Yous hould not rely on other people's opinion, nor on their impression, for there is a danger that they accept you as a good-looking while not apreciaing you for who you are. After all, healthy personalities are self-relying, and looking for respect for who they really are.
I don't think this is a really serious problem, just be careful for the dangers I mentioned. I repeat, If you are looking for respect being who you are, you must try not paying so much attention on external look, and the other case, if you feel you have to be accepted because of the way you look, you should be careful of being part of a group which you actually don't belong to personally (as a matter of internal feelings).
Still, looking good is in no way bad... cannot be, by definition!

Answer 6

Remember looks fade over time, if a person likes you then they like you for who you are. Yes, I'm sure looks do come into that but you need something else like the same interests and have to be compatible.

Answer 7

A noble person is someone who doesn't need someone to love them. This is what really attracts people. Yeah looks usually tend to fade, but trying to impress someone with antics or humor is different. Atleast it's good to be healthy.

Answer 8

Keep trying to look good for yourself. But ultimately you will be loved for who you are inside. Really. Real love is when someone loves you just as much when you gain weight, when you are ill etc. Chill out.

Answer 9

There's nothing wrong with looking good so that you feel good about yourself. But if you're going so far as to do whatever you can to look good to men, all you're going to do is attract shallow men.

Answer 10

Of course you're right! lol
If you're handsome is just more than fair that you share yourself to the others (especially sexy men ;) ).
Just don't forget that the inside is important to and everything's gonna be all right :P