we been married almost a year and all we do is fight.
when we were dating he was nice to me and he wanted to spend time with me but now were married all he does is yell at me and calls me bad names and he never wants to spend time with me.
i know he works but when he does have time he spend time with me he don't he go hang out with his friends and when i ask him what he doing he say it ain't none of my business and he never tells me anything he think its none of my business and when he is in a really bad mood he hits me.
i can't even see my friends and sometimes my family.
im so alone and confuse and don't know what to do please help...
2006-09-12 19:40:41 · 31 answers · asked by Ms. Rockstar 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i don't nag at him all i ask is him to spend time with me and if i did yell at him he threats to throw me out of the..
matter fact he has throwing me out of the house.
i let him do whatever he wants but he tells me what to do..
i don't have no say so in this marriage..
2006-09-12 19:52:07 · update #1
all i do is cry anymore...
2006-09-12 19:55:00 · update #2
No woman deserves to be treated like she is non existent. He has many deep seated problems. He is controlling, unloving, disrespectful to you calling you bad names, no respect for himself or he would not hit you, moody and just plain a poor example of a husband. The biggest fear is that he will hurt you - badly. The second fear is how controlling he is by not allowing you to see friends or family. The third fear is if there are children in this marriage or if you should conceive. You are in a bad situation. I'm sure you are worth more than he is willing to ever give you. Walk away - no RUN - as fast as you can in the opposite direction. It will be a difficult decision to do and an even harder thing to follow through but you need to for your own safety and sanity. Good Luck!
2006-09-13 17:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by HolidayGurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the first few years of the marriage will be very romantic and intimate. If you have married a known person it should be more friendly. As you said he was very nice when you were dating him. After marriage within no time he has turned the a MCP. Which suggests that this person has a duel personality. What he seems to be is not him. One can not trust these type of persons. Try and come out of this relationship ASAP. Finding a person who treats you as a companion is not a difficult task. I wish you all the best.
2006-09-14 05:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by ajaykumar318 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love isn't supposed to hurt. There are some good guys left in the world. You need to get out before he really hurts you or worse kills you. He is not only physically abusing you he is verbally and emotionally abusing you. Call the police and leave. There are alot of battered women shelters that can give you a place to stay and counseling and legal help. Best of all he can't get to you there. When he leaves for work get the things you need (birth certificate, ss card, clothes, things like that) and leave. You don't want to stay in a place where you are ignored and treated like a piece of yesterdays garbage, do you? Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-09-13 14:36:14 · answer #3 · answered by lighthouse lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you are with a guy who is physically and emotionally abusing you. The best thing I can suggest is to get into some sort of marriage counceling now, but if he hits you again, call the police. That is abuse and no matter how much you love him and how many times he says he is sorry, chances are he will do it again. No man has the right to keep you from your friends and family. I wish you the best of luck!
2006-09-13 02:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by Karin H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl he is abusing you and you need to get out! He's all ready knocking down your' self esteem and walking all over you!
NO human being--man or woman EVER deserves to be treated that way!
There are plenty of men out there who will cherish you for who you are and NEVER treat you badly, much less hit you and call you names. You really need to leave before it gets any worse. Go home to your' parents or go stay with a friend. Don't let him talk you into coming back either because he will try. He is an immature little punk and you deserve better!
2006-09-13 03:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help bad. This man is a controling person. Nothing you do will be right. If you are religious, go to your clergy. If not, call Life Crisis hotline. They will be able to get you some sort of help. I hope you don't have any children right now. I will put you in my prayers and hope the higher power helps you. Pray. Get help NOW or you may regret it later. It is still early enough in the marriage to get out. GOOD LUCK
2006-09-13 02:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you when you say you are not nagging or yelling.But, at the same time donot expect him to come to you when you expect him to. Involve yourself in a job, further education or social service. Ignore him by being busier than him.Packing and walking out of marriaage should be the last resort.Once he senses that he is no more your priority, he will start feeling insecure and hopefully realize his mistake. The very fact that, you are using this platform to seek advice, shows that, you have access to internet. So, if you can't go out for a job, try doing something online.It is normal to see the fizz runout after the marriage.It is upto us to regain it. Go ahead, all the best!!!!
2006-09-13 09:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by savvy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a very harmful marriage, and you need to get out, NOW!
Many women have experienced horrible changes in their husbands once they were married. One girlfriend of mine said that on their honeymoon, he told her lets just screw and get it over with! Big surprise because before he was very loving in the bedroom and out. I know you don't see it now ,but you will be happier if you move on to better things. Leave now before children get involved it will make the decision harder. Remember you are not alone a Lot of women go through this.
2006-09-13 03:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hits you, get the Heck Out!!!!!!!! Pretty soon, he'll always be in a really bad mood & you'll get hit even more. Sounds like he's trying to control you by isolating you from your friends & family & making you feel alone & confused in order to keep you from thinking of leaving. Get Out!!! You can do it, tell your friends & family what's been going on, I can't imagine that they wouldn't understand or want to help you. Oh, and did I mention, GET THE HECK OUT!!!!!!!!
2006-09-13 02:57:07 · answer #9 · answered by yobaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation u and u alone are the best judge, my advice would be to involve some elders his or your parents and if this does not work it would be best if both of u parted ways if this relationship continues and a child comes on the scene then another life will be miserable. Quit and start afresh
2006-09-13 09:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by Rahul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋