I feel very sad, i can think of many reasons why we shouldn't be together, but i can't help but miss him and want him back to have the good things again.
My bf of 3.5 years broke up with me over the phone because he says he doesn't want to explain himself to anybody, that he's gonna do whatever he wants, but he's always expected me to tell him everything and not do certain things that look bad or that can hurt his feelings, and i have cause i don't want to hurt him. But when he blows me off like this i tell him to be fair, and he says that no one is going to tell him how to be. He has said that he would like to grow old with me but still doesn't know what path to chose for his life. He changes his mind constantly. He acts as if only his feelings matter sometimes, and i always give in even if he's the one that screwed up, he never apologizes, he says he'll "give me another chance" instead. I have to talk to him again cause i have to give something back, i don't want to soften and cave.
2006-09-12 19:33:48 · 6 answers · asked by jade 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all..He sounds like a control freak,which will only get worse as he gets older unless some strong woman puts him in check! Now don't get me wrong,it WILL have to be someone he thinks he truly loves for it to work.But in my experience..those kind of guys don't really love anyone.They are too busy wanting their way to worry about someone elses feelings. Move on and leave him in your dust! He is expecting you to apologize IF he chooses to "give YOU another chance" I f you walk away and never look back..He might get a hint that not all always goes his way.Whatever you need to give back to him...Mail it. Don't take any calls from him,and definitely find someone else that knows the value of another human being.Honey you deserve sooo much better!So start by acting as if you never knew him,and find someone to hang with or date,and should he see you out,don't give him the satisfaction of even a glance or a word,he doesn't deserve it anyway,Give him some of his own medicine,I think you owe him that,at least he'll know what it taste's like. Good luck and happy hunting!
2006-09-12 19:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by desguisedangel06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've just gone thru almost the same kind of experience as you have.
I think we just need to accept that some men are selfish and we are not their priority. They may not return us the care and love we've shown them in our terms.
Don't use anything as an excuse to talk to him. In all truth, you're only opening your heart up to potentially more hurt.
it will be best for you to decide to let go (i know it hurts like mad but you want to be happy eventually yah?) and go cold turkey. No contact. if you do, you'll feel lousy soon enough.
We all deserve better. I hope we both get out of these damaging relationships soon! Hugs!
2006-09-13 06:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like hes a prick and needs to be without a girl for a while. He needs to find himself and what he really wants in life. I would do my best to move on for now. Just enjoy not having any strings tying you down. It sounds as tho it is for the best right now until he stops being an a$$ to you. You are not his property. He does not own you there for he cannot tell you what to do. Good luck and follow your heart but use your brain.
2006-09-13 02:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by Care Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not your husband. You know him for what he is. It is best to know this now. Get your life together. It seems that you were into it for the good things again and not LOVE.
If he were your husband and knowing that God says "Let no man slit you asunder;" then I would say work on your marriage.You knew what you knew about him and married him knowing and I would say that it seems silly to divorce a man over that which you know. You do not marry someone with the idea you will change them it doesn't work.
2006-09-13 02:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by Pepsi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sad for you to. I have been there and been through it all just like you. I know how bad you want to call him and try to get him back. But a man will not change for anyone. Please do not soften you deserve better and can do better. I can not promise you will find someone else anytime soon. But do not put off finding mr right while you wait for your ex to come around.....
here is a story, it is true and i have to live with the regret the rest of my life......
i was in love with a man partied and lived the good life. he said he could never comitt to me because he had five harleys, a truck and car to pay for and settling down was not his style. but i would not give up. there was this man who was so kind and gentle. Everyone told me how much he liked me, and how he drove by my place all the time. I was like 21 years old. Everyone talked about how much this guy liked me and he would give me the world. he did not party much, he had a good job and was kind and sweet. we had partied together a few times. and i was so stupid i could not pick up on his hints that he was trying to ask me out. he was kinda shy. one night he gave me a ride home and the whole time i went on and on about how much i was in love with so and so and how he was being a jerk that night and not talking to me. this man sat back and listened. everyone told me to wake up and forget about so and so, and that this nice man was my soul mate......
well i figured this guy would wait for me...... then one night in the bar around christmas time he was in there with this girl from the bank he had met. they had met for drinks. i got really smashed and i did everything i could to flirt with this guy. i actually showed him some real attention. but it was to late. so now everytime i see this man, my soul fills up with regret that I let a good thing go because i waited around for a jerk.
my point is. your soul mate may just be right there and your not seeing it because your waiting for mr jerk. 16 years later I see this guy and i frown as I think what could have been. so please let this man go.... your soul mate is there waiting, it may not happen as soon as you like but it will. please do not be blinded by the jerk guy you want. i was blinded and i lost my soul mate..
my soul mate.. we would party together and we were at an Reo speedwagon concert and had so much fun. but i was blinded by bad love.
2006-09-13 02:46:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you what is best for you until you yourself realize what is best for you.
2006-09-13 02:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋