We share custody. I want her to be baptized, just not in a Catholic church.
2006-09-12 19:18:51 · 10 answers · asked by loira74 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I went through this and found that if you go to the church and tell them the way you feel and as long as you were not married to him in a Catholic church they will not preform the baptism
2006-09-12 19:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by Glen M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not fret. Allow your ex-husband or ex-boyfriend to baptize her in his faith. It's no big deal and it will make him happy. Making him happy may be the last thing you want to do BUT when you allow this the next time when there is an issue you want to win you can say didn't I let you baptize our daughter now it's time for you to do some giving in. There is no law on earth or in Heaven that says someone cannot be baptized two, three or four times!!! I know many Catholics that were baptized when they were babies only to change faith as adults and be baptised in a Protestant church of one faith or the other. Remember how old Jesus was when he was baptised? Was he a baby? No. Is there any scripture that says that you cannot get into Heaven by not being baptized? No. Even if you're a Methodist who believes in infant baptism it will only mean that your little girl will get cleaned twice. Do you think Christ would disapprove? John Macarthur had a great lecture on baptism I heard a couple of times..maybe you could find it on the internet. Remember that baptism is being obediant to the Lord and identifying oneself in His death, burial and resurrection. I hope this helps and God bless you and your daughter!!!
2006-09-13 02:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by dillenger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the state. Most say that the custodial parent has the final say in matters of religious upbringing; however, the court will consider the father's wishes. In the end, the father will have to prove that a Catholic baptism is in the child's best interests. Depending on your reasons for not wanting the sacrament, they may allow it. Your lawyer should be able to explain your state law regarding this matter, but, in the end, you should ask yourself about the real reason you object.
2006-09-13 02:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by bestguessing 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Catholic Church now allows lay people to perform their own baptisms in "emergency" situtuations. So even if he says, fine, no Catholic baptism, he can always sneak the child away and Baptize her himself with a squirtgun.
2006-09-13 02:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by ralph w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, I don't think the courts get involved in matters like this. That's something the two of you have to work out. If worse comes to worst you can both have her baptized how each of you wishes. Don't make a big deal out of it. You want to maintain a reasonable relationship with you kid's father.
2006-09-13 02:31:27 · answer #5 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you have strong religous convictions? Or do you just want to use the child to tweak your ex?
I'm not sure about what specific rights either of you have, but DO NOT use the child as a means to settle scores with your ex. That will never result in anything good for you, your ex and most importantly, your child.
2006-09-13 02:25:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
why dont you just baptize her? whats it to you if she is baptized catholic, what would it hurt? only you, right?
2006-09-13 02:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by afterflakes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as the biological mother only you have the right to determine what religion your daughter should follow. though this could lead to some family complications. a mutually agreed settlement would be also in the interest of hte child.
2006-09-13 02:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by HMG M 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i am sorry thats what vatican says u should try to win her complete custody rights then
2006-09-13 02:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by legolas g/Frederich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your rights are as much as his after all didnt you give her life as her mom in my opion you have the right to say no . my opion?
2006-09-13 02:29:07 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋