okay i have been having sex for the past two years and I have never enjoyed it. It jus tends to only hurt and not really feel good. ive been with 5 guys and ive never actully orgasmed ..Im jus wondering whats wrong with me and if any girl feels the same way
2006-09-12 19:10:35 · 17 answers · asked by helloo 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
It could be that they are rushing into things too quickly for you to be properly lubricated. Also, most women do not orgasm from penetration alone. If you're wanting to begin enjoying sex more, then you will need to communicate with your partner. Talk to them about what things you do enjoy, such as oral sex or manual stimulation (fingering). As such have a session where you do those things first concentrating simply on what feels good. Do not focus on having an orgasm or else you will not be able to relax enough to probably have one. Also, masturbation can help you discover the types of touches and sensations that you enjoy and then can later communicate to your partner. Just be open with your partner and if he is not willing to talk and listen, I would recommend finding one who is.
2006-09-13 00:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by Corey R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to see your gyno. Sex isn't supposed to hurt after the 1st time. It could be uterine fibroids, ovarian cysts, endometriosis, or you might not be using enough lubricant.
And just as a side note, sex is sweeter after you get married. Consider saving yourself for the long-term guy so you will really have a chance to get to know him on an intimate level before you even have sex. Then his hearts desire will be to pleasure you in bed.
Seriously do consider going to your gyno. No sense in living with the pain if there's something that can be done.
2006-09-13 02:24:49 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.Fine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because sometimes it just does. Sex isn't this thing glorified in movies and books.
And as far as the orgasm thing...well...that can definately improve it. You also have to get with a guy who actually cares about you having an orgasm and is gentle. They DO say that if you're having trouble having an orgasm during sex, explore your body, find out what YOU like and then...well...go to town. Chances are that if YOU can make yourself have an orgasm, then you can show HIM to make you have an orgasm.
2006-09-13 02:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew a woman who had the same issues, and she had a tilted uterus. Whenever her parter would thrust, he would somehow bump the front of her uterus, and it hurt like hell... There are also women who have such sensitive nerve endings in the vagina that sexual friction can feel like electric shocks, or needle sticks.
Best go to the dr. I won't judge you, I feel badly for you. Sex should be a wonderful, enjoyable experience, and if it isn't there's something wrong. Your body was made for experiencing pleasure, so you have a right to enjoy it responsibly. Prudes can kindly jump into traffic...
2006-09-13 02:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by Angela M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, of course, sex would hurt but you should concentrate on the pleasure part. How old are you and do you really love the people you have sex with? That's a bug factor in increasing pleasure.
2006-09-13 02:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by axman1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, PLEASE see your gyno. Sex should NOT be painful after two years and five partners. You may have some health problems that need treatment. I HIGHLY doubt that you are doing it wrong. It doesn't take rocket science to have sex. You may have a health condition that can be easily treated so you can begin to enjoy sex.
2006-09-13 03:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by Smurfy Keeps Going and Going 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts because u probably did not lubricate. You have to lubricate first before penetration or else it will definitely hurt. It is difficult or almost impossible to get an orgasm if you feel hurt.
2006-09-13 02:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by sassy girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just one question for you, How old are you? Just wondering and alot of times sex isn't going to feel good unless you love the person that you are with.
2006-09-13 02:13:11 · answer #8 · answered by kissadawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you seen a dr.? if not, you might want to. that really isn't normal. sex shouldn't hurt at all, so you might have a problem down there. and sweetie, not to be mean at all cause i've had my share, but you might want to slow up on the number of guys you sleep with. quality not quantity.
2006-09-13 02:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
5 Guys at once????? No wonder
2006-09-13 02:14:25 · answer #10 · answered by Pauline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋