it hurts so bad,its just been 6 weeksintoour marriage,though menalways think its ok to cheat but i dont.i went through his phone and saw allthe details.what doi do?i'm so pissed andi love him so much.
2006-09-12 18:51:41 · 20 answers · asked by sweetheart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, if since you're married & are likely having unprotected sex, I'd get a full STD panel workup done. God only knows how many women he may have had sex with. Then, if you're up to it, I'd call the other women & among other things ask them if they've had sex with your husband lately. Maybe he hasn't told them he's married & has been sleeping with alot of other women. I dated a man once who said he was divorced with children. Imagine my surprise when his wife called me & asked who I was & if I was seeing her husband. Long story short, she had 6 other women to call & ask the same question to. I felt so horrible, eventhough he lied to me about being married, but at least I could give her a lil peace of mind by telling her that we had just met so sex was not an issue. I'm sure you love him sweetie, but if he's cheating on you after being married for only 6weeks, what'll he be like after 6mos etc...? And how could you ever trust him again???
2006-09-12 20:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by yobaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this the same "Crush" that you talked about meeting 6 months ago? From looking at the previous questions that you have asked, I have to wonder as to the seriousness of both your relationship and the questions that you are asking. It appears that you have not been with this person very long and maybe you are just right now finding out who he really is. Building a relationship AND trust takes time and you may not have had that time, but you were instead thrown right into the truth. If he really is cheating on you with 3 other women then your marriage is probably over. You NEED to confront him and find out the truth. Maybe he has a logical explanation...probably not, but it is your right to get the truth from him.
2006-09-13 02:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by tunnelrat16 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him faster than a five ton brick. It's very obvious he won't stay faith-full to only you, (Which is why you get married, in my opinion.) Make sure he knows what he's done to you.
If he's willing to do that after three (3) weeks of marriage, then he is not the one for you!!!
In my opinion he has already failed as a "husband" & you should prolly think about getting the divorce papers drawn up very soon, like say, tommorow!!
You shouldn't have to deal with that kind of behavior, no one should. Since he's done it three times in three weeks you might want to get away before he tries to put the guilt trip on you. Hope this helps.
2006-09-13 04:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by Jarod R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he really is cheating and not just chatting on the phone. Then get out of the marriage. Annul or divorce, but end it. You'll be doing both of you a favor.
2006-09-13 04:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by cryingguy1973 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only six weeks into the marriage??!! Why did he marry? I think you should really talk to him, calmly. There is a chance that all this is a terrible mistake. If it is not, well maybe he set a new record, and leave as fast as you can.
2006-09-13 03:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by avll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I am so sorry. I know you love him, but if it were me, I would say bye bye fast. He truly has no respect for you or your marriage and most often these things do not change. If you are just married, wow, he is not a good guy at all and you deserve someone who will take care of you better than that.
Good thoughts for you
2006-09-13 01:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by sistermoon 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce. I'm sorry but it won't get better and you'll end up hurting yourself more and more. He doesnt love you if he is cheating on you. So dont' waste your time girl. There are millions of guys out there hundred times better than him!
2006-09-13 01:55:29 · answer #7 · answered by #125 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm... Go get tested for STD's and don't let him touch you again!?!?
Then go see a judge and see about getting that 6 week old marriage of yours turned right back around and sent back to where it came from.
Then... Go get on with your life.
2006-09-13 01:58:11 · answer #8 · answered by NONAME 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
one forgiveable if you been married for many years 3 unforgivable sue him for everything he has make sure you get copies of the text messages so you can prove cheating to the judge.Dump him,alimony,house,car everything.Strick with a vengeance.
2006-09-13 01:55:14 · answer #9 · answered by movin12006 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he is fair with you then no problem. You can also try some new friends and watch the reaction.
2006-09-13 02:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋