I have a daughter who just turned one i lost a daughter in 2003 stillbirth at 7in a half months of pregancy pluse a miscarrage at 4months it was a boy.and am woundering if i should keep this one to.
2006-09-12 18:46:03 · 22 answers · asked by ebony 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Abortion means to END the possibility of a life. Miscarriage is a natural occurance, it happens. Women have miscarriages on a regular basis for one reason or the other every single month!
A little research on this would better provide you with informational facts on miscarriage vs abortion.
The simple fear that a fetus may not survive does not warrant the measure of abortion.
While the loss of a pregnancy is heart breaking and takes it's emotional toll on a woman, the freedom to choose "abortion" is a very haphazard right.
You became pregnant due to un-protected sex. Thus the decision has already been made that pregnancy is the result.
Your history isn't a good one. The loss of a child at 7 months is truly a painful experience. Then again at 4 months? My heart goes out to you and your family.
I admire your courage to concieve another child. I would say to allow the pregancy to survive.
My advice is based on personal experience similar to yours. I had a beautiful healthy son. Then had a miscarriage at 11 weeks, again at 4 months, again at 13 weeks. Then a wonderful baby girl born full term, natural birth, no problems whatsoever.
Sometimes there are certain fetal delvelopmental problems that our bodies can detect, thus natural miscarriage/abortion occurs.
Take care of yourself, get all the tests. Serve your body and the baby well. But remember that nature can sometimes be selective in what it will allow.
I wish you all the best in whatever you decide...............
2006-09-12 19:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anna M 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should keep your baby. It must be so hard losing babies like that. I dont know whether you believe in God or not, and i am not catholic or any religion. But i do believe that if there is something wrong with your baby then your body will reject it, or fate will step in.
You can only try again, who knows, you might get a beautiful baby at the end of it all and wonder why you even thought about getting rid of it. I do feel for you though, i dont know what i would do if i had a stillborn baby but be strong and use your power of the mind. Will power to tell yourself that you will have a beautiful healthy baby in 9months or so. You may not get another chance... Goodluck, i really hope you make the right decision for yourself and your family.
2006-09-12 19:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jordy[♥] 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can you honestly live with the fact after loosing two precious babies killing one? If not then No you shouldn't have an abortion. That baby is a human being. I have had 14 miscarriages and am currently pregnant with a beautiful baby girl because I took the chance. Like you I had a decision similar to this to make I chose to keep mine and now in 13 weeks she will be here.
Go talk to a counsellor and get some practical help and find a good OB who will support you and help you with your prayers while your pregnant.
2006-09-12 21:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by silverthorn73 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is question only you can answer. Were you able to seek quality medical care with the two pregnancies you lost? Are you able to seek it now? Did you find out why your daughter was stillborn? It might be a freak thing, it might be a medical thing. If you decide to keep this baby, make sure you see a doctor who knows your medical history. If you can't see one that already knows, make SURE you inform them. That way they can monitor your progress a lot more closely since you might be considered high risk. If you decide not to keep this baby, please make sure you go to a reputable doctor in your area. Planned Parenthood can recommend several I'm sure. Either way, take care of yourself first and foremost, if you're not healthy, then your baby won't be either. Plus it makes it a lot harder to care for your daughter you have now. Good luck honey.
2006-09-12 18:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by jenpeden 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay so now that the chowderheads above me have had their 2 cents let's be REAL for a moment. I am a married father of 2 kids and WE have a really hard time caring for them and providing them with the nourishment and education they so rightfully NEED. I truly feel for your loss and I am sorry that you had to live through that but you have a huge decision to make and make quickly.
Please have an abortion for the sake of your family's collective future.
NOW is the time to be selfish and think of no one but your daughter and her future. Think of your future and what you want to do for the both of you.
Having more children will never ease the pain of children you've lost but I guarantee that it will put a far greater strain on the ties to your daughter and her needs.
2006-09-12 19:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by Ren Hoek 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should base your decision about whether to have this baby- on your past experiences. Babies are about the FUTURE. And if you want it, and you can love it & take good care of it- DON'T give it up based on the premise of what "might" happen. The World could end tomorrow & then everybodys babies would be lost- but it's still what we hope for them TODAY- that makes us take the chance. Never be afraid- to hope.
2006-09-12 19:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it must have been so painful to lose those children.........But you have been blessed with little daughter. Do you not think that this child deserves a chance to live just like you little girl. If it doesn't make it through then yes that will be painful but atleast it will have had a chance a life.
2006-09-12 19:08:46 · answer #7 · answered by lil 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
firstly sorry about ur losses, secondly i dont feel u should get an abortion because this maybe the child god wants you to keep so I believe ur pregnant for a reason. just give it a chance and everything will be fine
2006-09-12 19:16:25 · answer #8 · answered by keebler 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's your own choice. Do have the financial and emotional resources to endure another pregnancy and then raise a child? Take that into consideration. Abortion is not murder. A fetus is not a person!
2006-09-12 22:11:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You lost two children, I hope you don't lose any more. I'm glad you still have one daughter. Of course you should not get an abortion.
2006-09-12 18:57:43 · answer #10 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋