She has a good heart and puts up with a lot of my quirks. But in return i put up with all of her crap and shes got a slight psycho side to her.She hates to compromise and isnt too understanding on most matters. We have been together for almost 2 years and its like a 50 / 50 thing whether or not i want to be with her forever. How and when will i know? Should i know already? Also im a very easy going guy and try to give her everything she requires except for marriage.
2006-09-12 18:44:56 · 20 answers · asked by newyorktocountry 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to spend a day by yourself, and decide if you can happily function without her. I was with my first boyfriend for 4 years before i decided that i could actually live without him. He as it turns out was just in love with the idea of marrage, and was married two months after we split. you just have to decide if you want to wake up next to her everyday for the rest of your life.
2006-09-12 19:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think two yrs is enough time to get to know someone. You shall know in the back of your mind if you want to spend the rest of your life with her. Love is about give and take....you give some and take some. You said she hates to compromise and isn't to understanding on most matters also showed that she's not the marriage type of gal. Believe me first thing about marriage is about compromising and understanding. If she doesn't have that or try to work with you. You should reeluvated your relationship. If she's really the one for you you would already feel it by now.... That feeling of love is undescriblable...Being an easy going guy is a great thing but keep in mind that you can't give in to her for the rest of your life. Consider an open communication with her and get her to start compromising with little things to start with. Hope this help.
2006-09-13 02:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know. You pointed out all of her bad points, and only two of her good points. If you aren't completely sure already, then she's not the one for you. Just because you guys might have a great connection and you both are very forgiving and whatnot, may not exactly mean that things will always stay that way. People change a lot, and marriage changes people too. You have to consider if you could live without her and if you can't, then maybe you have a chance.
2006-09-13 01:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that compromise is very very important in marriage..take that back, I KNOW it is. I have been married for nearly 15 years now and without compromise, I can't see us still being together. So, if she is already having a hard time compromising...that can't be good. So, I am not saying she is most definitely not the one for you, but I would most certainly seek couples therapy before you tie the knot. That would be my advice. Good luck!
2006-09-13 01:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you can imagine being with her for the rest of your life (anywhere from 1 day - 50 years) and someone that you will truly love, cherish, compromise with, raise a family with and spend most of your time with day in and day out...then she's the one.
2006-09-13 01:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by DrSH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL BUDDY: she puts up w/ alot from you thats good, am sure she if living together fixes ur meals, cleans ur house, if you were ever sick she stayed home from work to take care of you, if she has done all of these & some then youll know she is the one for you, then yes tie the knot, if not work on what you want & give her more then she needs, then both of you will be happy, GOOD LUCK..
2006-09-13 01:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by mike_m50501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can see yourself rolling over in 20 years next to her in bed then you're ready. If it's only 50/50 I would say absolutely not. You love a person within the first yr as much as you're ever going to love them so if you're waiting for the absolutely madly in love thing to happen forget it.
2006-09-13 01:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should know, because you know what you want...I mean, you know yourself, you are you and nobody but you alone can answer your question...not that I am being rude or something, it's just that you have the answer, you only have to listen to what your heart is saying...try to relax, have peace, ask yourself whether you want her to be with you for the rest of your life... you know better than others do...good luck!=]
2006-09-13 01:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is something that you should already know after 2 years. If it is that way now, she will not get any better, and you will never be happy if you are not now.. don't let her talk you into marriage if you are not happy with her, you will both regret it in the long run
2006-09-13 01:49:27 · answer #9 · answered by Just Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look into your future if you see your future without her and you are unhappy then you need her. You have to accept though that if you want her to be with you for the rest of your life you will be accepting the negative as well as the positive. We are all humans and we commit mistakes....we are not perfect. Accept her as she would do accepting you.
2006-09-13 04:21:06 · answer #10 · answered by yunesa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋