So my previous question got a lot of people saying things about me getting married so young. Ok, well just because I'm engaged does not mean I intend to marry right away. I'm currently in school, as is my fiance. I've already got my EMT certification and am going to be a Paramedic. He's going for a physical therapy certification, then maybe sports medicine...he's undecided. Anyhoo,we've both got a good head on our shoulders and understand that marriage is a BIG deal. I intend to have a stable CAREER and a HOUSE before even planning the wedding. We made the decision to live together because it felt right. He wanted to put a ring on my finger bc he's romantic and very passionate and wanted it on me ASAP. lol. In all honesty,we've got a great thing going. And we work very hard (both full time employees w/good pay). Along with going to school. I just wanted to know,do ppl think we're wrong for getting engaged so young? Even tho marriage isn't in the near future? Just curious...Thanks !
2006-09-12 18:26:28 · 13 answers · asked by *Juicy Princess* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm only posting this question for opinions about young and engaged/married. Everytime I bring it up,ppl throw up a red flag. Just curious. Again,thx everyone for the input!
2006-09-12 18:35:53 · update #1
*I'm just curious how those out there feel about this topic. Your answers won't help me form a decision,as I've already made mine!
2006-09-12 18:49:02 · update #2
I hear u loud and clear. I got married at 19. I'm 21, have my own career in Radiology and I have heard the same sh!t over and over as u have. It is VERY irritating how easily someone just stereotypes and categorizes u as if u will be part of some statistics just because they went thru it themselves. They don't realize that they are speaking from THEIR reality and not yours.
It is your life and your decisions. Do what u feel is right for u as u are the one who's going to live your life, no one else. It's okay for people to give their opinions, however, they shouldn't state it as if it applies to everyone.
Do your thing and let the comments in one ear, out the other.
BTW, congratulations on a great career.
2006-09-12 18:49:34 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have friends that recently got married and they are both 23 years old. Personally I do not mind when people are engaged that young, I would mind if you were getting married within the next year. Wait a 2 years or longer before you decide to get married. You might find out that your fiance is a different person in the next few years and no longer want to marry him. Do not rush things, otherwise it could create problems in the future.
2006-09-13 01:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by ridingis4life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I speak from personal experience here: The reason why people seem to think you are "wrong" for getting engaged so young is this: Young men and women in there late teens and early twenties have no concept of how theire lives will change over the next 10 years. Your twenties are a time when you learn about yourself, what you want to be, and most importantly, the kind of person you want to be. You say that you are not getting married in the near future. What does that mean. Your going to wait two years? five years? Being in such a serious commitment at your age does not allow for either of you to grow to become your own person.
This is the argument against it. Keep in mind, however, that there have been plenty of couples how married in there teens and stayed married for decades. You need to do what feels right for you. Just remember, what feels right right now, may not feel so right by the time your thirty.
2006-09-13 08:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by lyricsop 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to get engaged when it feels right to you.... Just don't let the engagement last years and years when an engagemnt lasts years it becomes a pseudo marriage and when it comes time for the real marriage there is a disappointment because it just feels like same old same old with a party in the middle...
2006-09-13 01:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
doesn't bother me, and I'm people...If you two were partying bums, that would be one thing. If I were your parent per say, but you guys are starting out on the right foot, living together these days is like buying shoes. its an everyday occurance, my daughter lives with her boyfriend, and I like him so no biggie. As long as you are happy, healthy, and doing all right, let what people say go in one ear and out the other.
2006-09-13 02:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like your planning things out...I dont understand why people are having a problem with what your doing, its none of their business anyways....Make sure you keep your cert up for EMT, Paramedic classes are fun, well they were for me, but i love that junk and congrats on your engagement....
2006-09-13 01:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
got married when i was 19 and my 10 year aniversary is today. wish we had been as stable as you guys seem to be. marriage is a long hard road but it is your decision to make based on what you feel is right for your relationship.
2006-09-13 01:42:27 · answer #7 · answered by melinda w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I dont. Im 19 and married. Age haves nothing to do with it as long as both parties are of legal age (or have their parents consent.)
2006-09-13 01:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no do what make you happy. who care what other say. it's your guys life not there. so i hope you guys the best and good luck on your wedding plans.
2006-09-13 01:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by Melda R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what we think. If you love each other, go for it. Careers, money, homes are important, but not really.
And go to church.
2006-09-13 01:43:44 · answer #10 · answered by who R U 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋