2006-09-12 17:48:19 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
1. Admit to yourself that a great loss has occurred and mourn for it. Don't deny it. Don't hold anything in or pretend it did not happen.
2. Take stock of your other friendships and realize you are not alone and that people are there to support you.
3. Remember that casual, platonic friendships are important to help keep you busy. Such friendships also play a broader, supportive role that close friendships cannot always cover, either.
4. Realize that even though that person is now out of your life, other close friendships will develop over time.
5. Do special things for yourself.
6. Be supportive of others who might be going through the same thing as you.
7. Remember that one of the best friends you have is yourself.
2006-09-12 20:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What did the person you have lost teach you about yourself you could not discover by yourself? Be grateful for the blessing that the relationship was.
Honour the relationship by respecting their wish to end it. They will appreciate that.
You will never 'recover' from the loss, really. Your memory will haunt you and you will always feel a twinge of hurt and regret when you remember them. But what you can do with those feelings can be therapeutic. Write a letter to the person. Write the letter as if the person is dead. Don't send it. Keep it somewhere safe. When you feel down, read it and remember how much they meant to you. When the hurt fades, burn the letter.
You will survive. It took me 2 years before I felt 'normal' after a break-up. What helped me was that "He is happier without me and free to grow and love someone else. So am I." It takes maturity to admit this. Don't fret. Desperation fails to attract positivity into your life.
2006-09-12 17:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I have been there more than a few times. Focus on other friendships that you have. Try to find commonalities in these friends that may fill the void. It will hurt for a while especially if you have shared friends that side with her. Uncomfortable situations will arise when there are gatherings that this friend has been invited to and you are there as well. Hopefully husbands wern't involved. My husband has sworn off making friends with anymore of my friend's husbands because he always lose out in the end. I found writing letters to the friend and then throwing them away helped. You need to get that pent up anger out. You probably used her to vent so you need to find a new outlet. Good luck.
2006-09-12 17:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if my situation is similar to yours, but Its the only answer I have. I recently broke off a 12 year friendship with my best friend. She was the greatest friend I'v ever had. But she just drifted off into the arms of a man who is almost twice her age. I continuously tried to make plans with her every weekend to see if she could fit me in to go out on the town or something, but she was always fighting and arguing with her supposed 'man'. She wanted to visit with me but he always kept her from meeting up with me. This surprised me, as I thought she was a stronger person than that. So, in order to keep from hurting myself, I told her it was best that she called me when she dumped that rotten, old fool she was with. In a way, I feel I should be there for her. But she is never there for me. So, in conclusion, finally, if neither one of you are getting anything out of the relationship, its best to move on and reopen the spot for a new best friend. You can't be there for someone who isnt there at all. AF
2006-09-12 18:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by adam f 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, sometimes people just grow in different ways, its not necassarily a bad thing. And no matter what it is sad to lose a friend. If it ended babdly try to reconcile, if just kind of faded away you will find more people out there to become your friend I am sure. It is never the end of the world. People come and people go out of our lives for many different reasons, just be true to yourself.
2006-09-12 17:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by dabesgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I moved on. One of my closest friends and I drifted apart and I was so sad about it but I know better, I know to just let go and busy myself with other things. We had a good friendship and now it's time for new ones that might last longer.
2006-09-12 18:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by pacific_crush 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happened to me... once the anger and hurt calm down and you realize he/she wasn't the one, you can finally move on and pursue that "right" one for you! Thoughts will always be there. But, it is so much easier to realize that it is time to move on. If you are lucky, as I was, she is still a very good friend!
2006-09-12 18:12:20 · answer #7 · answered by maddog1968 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first i will think which one of us wrong. then after that i will think that what was the reason for breakage of our friendship. if the worng is with me only i really convience my friend really to forgive me and i won't repeat this again which makes our friendship broken off.
2006-09-12 17:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by CHINNARI 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reflect on what happened and then try to men the relationship. It is a long, slow process. If you are committed the wait is worth it.
2006-09-12 17:50:31 · answer #9 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You apologize for your part in the breakup and tell the person that you hope that you can be friends again in the future.
Then you go out and try to make new friends and keep yourself busy.
2006-09-12 18:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋