i love him very much but still i can't get over with him....i know it's not good for me if i will believe that we can be together again....i want to kill my self right now...i hurts so much when i think about him and the fact that he's going to be a father soon co'z his gf now is 1 month pregnant....i love him so much.....very much......
2006-09-12 17:21:37 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sToP TyPing LikE THis first of all, and second of all, just dump him. He's seems like dirt to me.
2006-09-12 17:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by ashcatash 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your situation..but he is not worth it.Loving someone so much it hurts is a HARD thing to get over.It is not good to keep wanting something you will never had again,,and I'm speaking from experience.I have loved 2 men in my life.The first one(the father of my oldest son) I loved for almost 20 yrs!I would have left my husband in a NY minute if he had wanted me,I was so blinded by that love I didn't even realise he only used me and he didn't care anything about his son.The 2nd one..I am divorcing now after 5yrs,I thought he was THE one.We broke up at least 10 times the first 4 yrs and I kepy going back because i thought I couldn't live without him! He was a coldhearted,verbally abusive drunk that made it plain his bottle was more important than I was.I thought I would die without him! I actually tried to kill myself twice..without any regard for the people who loved me(my kids,my mom) and a lot of friends and other close family members! Believe me when I say that was the stupidest thing I have ever done!I found out early this year that I have a degenerative brain disease. know what he did? Threw me out for the last time.He wanted nothing to do with me when he found out I couldn't work anymore and I needed to depend on him for help and moral support.He said he didn't have time for my broke down dying as*! So I left.Best thing that ever happened to me! Did I hurt? Like hell.Did I wish it were different? you bet.Do I still love him? Hell no! Does it hurt when I think about him or hear he is sleeping with someone else?yes it does,because I wanted so much with him.But there are times you just need to let go. Get with some good friends,buy a couple new outfits and hit the club or go to a concert or two or three,but get out and don't dwell on him anymore!There are a lot of men looking for a good,faithful woman to love. you deserve better! Don't even think about suicide.And if you really think that way,think about who will hurt the most..I can tell you it won't be him! Talk to someone,let it out and move on...It's hard I know,but you can do it! We all have our trials,but we gain strength and knowledge from them.I wish you the best and I hope I gave even a little strength to help you.The hurt will go away,I promise! and you will find that guy who will love you like you deserve to be loved.Keep the faith. God bless.
2006-09-13 00:50:33 · answer #2 · answered by desguisedangel06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all- don't kill yourself over him. you don't know what your future holds and i'm sure it holds a lot more than the pain you're going through right now. take it from me (i've been in a hopeless state of mind before, and just a year later i was the happiest i'd ever been.)
if you love him (and i think you'll hate that i'm saying this, but i have to say it anyway) you'll want him to be happy. if he's happy with his new girlfriend and wanting to share a life with her, the most loving thing that you could do would be to just be happy for him. if you can, try to get to know his girlfriend, not so you can compare her to yourself, but so that you can figure out what YOU like about her. who knows? you two might end up being best friends, and you'll be able to put your feelings for your ex behind you. she may even end up being the one to introduce you to a guy that you'll fall even more in love with! :)
2006-09-13 00:29:01 · answer #3 · answered by jenn w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is sad. I feel for you - it's not easy. But no one -NO ONE - is worth hurting yourself over. Pain & loss takes time (it sucks I know). Be good to yourself. I hated when people said this to me but it is SO true - you will get over him one day and will fall in love again.... I've been hurt real, real bad a couple of times and in both situations I didn't think I'd make it out alive. I obviously did and now I have a really nice bf!! Have patience - things will get better!!
2006-09-13 00:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by JeyJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can start by typing without that capital lowercase crap. It hurts the eyes and lowers your intelligence, which may be part fo the reason why you are in love with a guy that has a girlfriend and a kid. By the way you are talking about all this, you are about 14-16 and he is a lot older. ENJOY YOUR YOUTH.
2006-09-13 00:28:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't go crazy over a guy i know what it feels like to love a guy so much that it really hurts but hes not worth it if he doesn't like you for who you are then u need to get over him when someone told me to get over my last bf i didn't think i could it was eating me up inside and i couldn't believe me it will never be OK that there moving on but it will get better and your probably a great person and he doesn't deserve you so move on and get out there meet new people even if u don't think u could just try it once and if your not ready then go out with your friends for a while till your ready but don't pawn over him but don't go in denial cry over it for a day then get back out there.
2006-09-17 00:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by nodaybuttoday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look hun it will take time for you ta get over him but i promis yoou will and trust me this guy may be you first love but he is not your true love it took me bad marrige and many guys later ta find that out but turned out it was a guy that i had a crush on when i was 18 years old we got tagether when i was 23 years old now we have a daughter we are not married nor do we live tagether but we are n love and always will be o and just for the record the girl that my first love left me for lol they got married and she cheated on him more than once they had 2 kids and now they are divorced and she has remarried and he cant keep a woman
2006-09-13 00:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by Jeannie T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is to set him free and let him go.I know its hard for you but you must understand that not everything we want we get. Well he has already his own life and you must move on, he's not the right man for you..just wait coz' your still young there are many many guys out there! It's not yet your turn...Just concentate on your studies first...
2006-09-13 02:22:40 · answer #8 · answered by vjean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over him. Just find another interest to take your mind off him. Might I suggest a typing & language course?
2006-09-13 00:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by azza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only remedy. You will come to terms and the pain will subside. I don' t know how old you are but more love lies ahead.
2006-09-13 00:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by spacecommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... just get over him...because he has already got a responsibility, that is he has got someone to be married to.... Well, girl....all you have to do is to make him do a right decision, that is to take his responsibility... because to love here means you help your partner to be grown up....
wish u luck.. It is hard, yet worthy....
2006-09-13 00:43:09 · answer #11 · answered by dennis l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋