Is it normal to feel so overwhelmed that you just want to give up?/?

Question

Well, i so worried bout my friends they were stupid and OD on muscle relaxers and somoked pot and then took the pills with oachol there both on life support and cant breath on there own! I have a huge speech and debate tournemnet this weekend, i have not finshed that i have so much to do i just want to give up i feel i have no one to help me! I dont even have time to get a boyfriend and i really do want one!! i guess i just need a friend my best friend my mom doesnt like so we only see each otehr on the weekiedn and then, my school would not let her come back! Grr... i cant take no more i really on the edge of just droping school! I Cant take it no more! (and im not sucidal so dont worry bout that!)

Answer 1

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I totally understand. Been in that situation several times. In school, high school, university and even at work. Ha ha, sometimes, I just do more worrying than doing because I have so much work, when what I should be after is doing more and worry less. The best thing that got me through all these tough times is the following:

Tell yourself the following: I will do what is reasonable in this situation. I must set boundaries. I deserve time to eat, sleep and relax a little. That means I need x (whatever you decide) hours free every day. I will work till that time and not lose unnecessary time while doing so. Then I will stop and relax. I will go to event, and do the best I can. But F***K the result. I do not care if I get first or last. Whatever happens happens. I am not going to stay losing my mind because of the amount of work that I have. If I come last, so be it. If I do any better, good luck to me.

And there it goes. Life sorted for the next couple of weeks or whatever. Until the next life hurdle. :)

Keep smiling :)

You will get over it :)

Answer 2

Wow! My dear I am so sorry to hear about your friends. I know what it feels like to be overwhelmed, I reccommend this; take each moment as it comes, breathe, take each day as it comes, try not to think so much about everything, being a "sponge", sucks and it sucks everything from YOU, slow down. What done is done. Today is today and tomorrow........well is not a guarantee as you can see, in a blink everything can change. Take some time for YOU, heal, you sound like you need it. And I wish you the best. Never give up.

Answer 3

Yes I believe it is very normal..I graduate this yr and I am starting college..I make straight A's in school and have a modeling offer at the moment..Acutally a couple..But no matter wats offers I get and how go I got it in school..I cant seem to pull miself out of this misery I am in..I totally agree that no matter wat u got,u can still feel like giving up because theres something missing inside you..And when u need sum1 the most their never there.My ex and I just broke up and that has killed me the most...I suggest that u either talk about it to sum1 close,get counseling or even email me if u'd like... [e-mail] because it isnt healthy to keep it inside...

Answer 4

You are dealing with some serious traumas if you have friends who have od'd and are on life support. that alone would be situations that would need time to grieve through and heal through and in the meantime you are dealing with all the other heavy things going on in your life. It sometimes feels more overwhelming than you can handle at the time. I am going through a disaster right now myself and am trying to find answers and to get through it. I was trying to think through all the times in my life I have had to deal with such heavy and serious things and how somehow I have gotten through them. I have single parented for 16 years through some very trying times. I guess I am trying to say that in time you are able to look back and realize you made it through when it seemed almost impossible to do so. this has happened many times in my life, and then I find i can look back and see I got through it. It is a good thing to be able to see that, that you got through it, it helps you with present problems and any others that come up, and they will in life from time to time.
I am 53 now and have seen some things, but I am still standing. so yes, it is MORE than normal to be experiencing what you are feeling. I know how it can be when it seems there is no one there to help you, and maybe you are truly unable to find someone to do so,but If you can get some help maybe on the project to lighten your load, or even just talking to others about it and how you are feeling like you are doing here, sometimes helps. I am so so sorry you are dealing with so much. I pray for help to come to you in all the ways you need. also i know you said you weren't suicidal or anything, but i know there were times when i really almost felt that way but didn't want anyone to know how bad it really was for me, so I pray for encouragement for you and to be brought from discouragement to hope and help. that is all I can think to say right now, i hope in some way it will bring comfort and help and care to you.

Answer 5

Honey, just put it in God's hands, talk to Him, He will always be there for you. I know that sounds cheezy, but what have you got to lose? Give it a try. If you need to you can email me. I am older but I can listen.

Answer 6

I can well understand your feelings-I use to be in debate and speech, and not bragging always did quite well in those activities. Many times I ran into the problems similiar or alike. Try this one on for style-I lost my job last year, My youngest is special ed and 24/7 child-I have a 26 year old daughter w/child and she is down and has been for 6 months now, a 72 year old Mother-In-Law who gets sick quite a bit now, a wife who wants hardly anything to do with our special ed child, a three year old grandaughter who needs taking care of and a whole lot of other things.
I have CPS in and out of house, SCAN workers in and out of house, State DFC in and out, and FEC people in and out. It is not easy caring for everyone, washing dishes, cleaning house, 2 teenage girls, keeping the outside looking presentable, by mowing, taking care of plants, trees, and shrubs. I don't know how a women keeps up lol lol-it is really hard.
I have lost two close friends in a natural death. A child who was seriously injuredwhile hikeing and was in hospitol all week, President of a bowling league, keeping bills paid, and a whole lot more. You can never surrender or give up-FORGET THE DROPPING OUT OF SCHOOL- Today you will not be able to find a job, let alone, a ungrad at that. Stay in school-I know the peer preassure is hard, but things have a way of working theirselves out.
When I was in school, I had a tough row to hew-I was a farm boy-part cheyenne/sioux native american, I was alwys trying to keep abreast of things as life went forward. I had no gist of where my life was going-as I knew I would be ending up over seas in a war I did not start. I am an American and that being patriotic has and always will be with me. Kids use to treat me pretty bad when I was in school-they were whacked out on drugs or alcohol, and the world was changing rapidly-Riots, Protests, Anti-War demonstrators, Draft Dodgers, Flag burners, draft card burners, etc. The world was a mess, but I went over seas in that crazy war-I came back unscathed even though I had to cross over enemy lines and bring nack prisoners etc. It was a strange and reckless way to grow up and I did quickly. When I returned, I returned as an enemy to many-my friends stayed in one corner and I in another. I was spit on, frowned on, called names and a whole lot more.
I lost 6 older friends who died in that war before I graduated, I had 8 that was drafted and only 1 came back uninjure, except in the head, Those days were very perplexing and uncomprehendable.
Many times before going to a Public Speaking contest or debate contest my mind was always thinking of what was going on around me, But as time went on, Life in sequence did also. Many times I sought out God and the native american spirits, and can proudly say"-I was protected." When I returned I had few friends who would even speak to me. But As in all Journeys in Life, I gained knowledge, wisdom, and strength. Each passing day brought warmth and good nurtured feelings, that I comprehended and understood. I do not know rather this little bit of information can or will help you, but when your down, seek earth mother and forest lights lessons-tranquility, beauty, life, all encompas your world-Seek out that special gift that was given you-be strong and gain strength from around you, kick back and rest and let nature heal you.
Quitting school is not the answer, nor is giving up the true answer-walk with pride and hold your head up! Think positive always, stay on top of things-Let your wounds heal from all the problems-take a walk in the woods, near a stream, a mountain range, a glen where flowers and animals, wildlife, and nature entwine-Believe me it is well worth the time to step back and take a break from the headaches-Life is full of surprises and how do you know? Maybe God has something planned for you through enrichment, or otherwise. I hope perhaps this may have helped you in your thinking-Keep a clear head and embrace life for all its worth as, life is to short not to...

Answer 7

its normal for everyone to feel like that from time to time. just remember god, doesnt give us what we cant handle.. hang in there, and once you get through it, you'll look back and be proud of yourself for not quitting

Answer 8

if you need a friend (though we don't know each other) i will be here.

Answer 9

YES THAT VERY NORMAL,BUT JUST STICK WITH IT.LIFE ALWAYS GETS BETTER OVERTIME

Answer 10

You need a vacation...