We still in school but I know he the one and he does too1!!! he loves me ad misses me....
GUYS: Do u find it as a turnoff for woman to bring up engagemt and marriage, ...but then we do need to know if we on the same page right, or else all in vain..........
2006-09-12 16:29:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
guys hate it but sometimes they need to be pushed. i had a friend with two kids and she had to bug her man to death to get him to marry her. they been together for years so its not he wasn't into the commitment. i think its best just to ask where the relationship is heading.
2006-09-12 16:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IF YOU ARE STILL IN HIGH SCHOOL, HOW MUCH EXPERIENCE DO YOU THINK YOU HAVE? WHAT COULD YOU POSSIBLY BRING TO A MARRIAGE AT THIS POINT IN YOUR LIFE? MARRIAGE IS NOT PROOF OF LOVE. YOU ARE YOUNG AND YOUR BRAIN IS NOT FULLY DEVELOPED YET. I WONDER HOW TO EXPLAIN IT SO YOU CAN UNDERSTAND...
THINK OF IT LIKE THIS. EACH RELATIONSHIP, OR EMOTIONAL INVOLVEMENT YOU ARE IN, TEACHES YOU MORE ABOUT YOURSELF. YOU LEARN MORE ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT FROM SOMEONE, WHAT YOU WILL AND WON'T ACCEPT FROM SOMEONE, AND WHAT YOU ARE WILLING TO GIVE SOMEONE.
CHEATING YOURSELF OF THAT TOO SOON, WILL CAUSE YOU TO FEEL (WHEN YOU GET TO YOUR 30'S) LIKE SOMETHNG IS MISSING. YOU WILL WONDER WHAT ELSE IS OUT THERE, AND RESENT YOUR PARENER FOR YOUR FEELING TRAPPED WITH THEM. YOU WILL HAVE HAD NOTHING TO COMPARE THEM TO AND END UP CHEATING, OR BEING CONTINUALLY DISSATISFIED AND RESENTFUL.
ALSO, YOU HAVE NOTHING TO OFFER IN A MARRIAGE. IF YOU AT LEAST GO TO COLLEGE AND GET YOUR DEGREE IN SOMETHING, YOU INCREASE YOUR EARNING POTENTIAL SO YOU CAN MAKE A CONTRIBUTION TO YOUR LIFESTYLE. MARRIAGE HAS MANY RESPONSIBILITIES, AND THEY GET IN THE WAY OF COMPLETING YOUR EDUCATION.
SLOW DOWN, DON'T SHOOT YOURSELF IN THE FOOT. TAKE SOME TIME TO DEVELOP WHO YOU ARE FIRST.
2006-09-12 16:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to take it slow , you are still in school and maybe just maybe youre feelings might change for him afterwards. you dont want to rush into marriage and possibly make the biggest mistake of youre life. and yes, it is a BIG BIG turnoff
2006-09-12 16:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by Shawn T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T. You may think he is the one and he may think it also but wait till you are least 25. It is a lot easier to get married in 5 years or so then to get a divorce and end up hating each other.
2006-09-12 16:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by CoCo-Puffs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait until you finish school and get jobs and live together a while. Then he won't know how to live with out you. Or you will find out if marriage is right for you.
2006-09-12 16:32:31 · answer #5 · answered by LETICIA P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, If you can't wait because you feel that he is the only one and you found the right one then go ahead tell him that your dream is to get married and make a family, but if he doesn't want then let him go.
2006-09-12 16:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by CHICA24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still have so much time in your life before start thinking about marriage. So why not enjoy it while you can.
Spending your time wisely and thinking about marriage only when you have finished schooling.
2006-09-12 16:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by Rod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably he wants to marry you, but probably he also wants to do other things before tying the knot. I think he would just feel pressured now, I don't think marriage it's in his head right now.
If he was financially secure, over 25 yrs old, probably you could ask him.
2006-09-12 16:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by Roberto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first, what is a while? 6 months, a year , two years..?
If its been more than 2 yrs. maybe an engagement ring and after you finish school marriage...........
2006-09-12 16:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by fullofsunshine 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I see that you need to finish that school first. Then ask him. I don't see any problem in that.
2006-09-12 16:34:16 · answer #10 · answered by luosechi 駱士基 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋