I really can't explain what i'm really trying to say but bare w/ me on this one. I had this conversation with my husband and he said that i'm looking for him not to trust me but thats not the issue i wanted him to take notice of me pay some attention...i did many things to get his attention to see if he notice me or anything i did or be concern. I noticed one time when i was out late 3am he didn't call on me to see if i was okay or where i am anything of that nature... zI thought that what people do when when they care or love someone..this happen many times. I've called him whenever he's out to see if he's okay if out late or he's traveling on the road..but when im out he doesn't call to be concern.. i did befriend a male friend for 2yrs(Platonic) to see if he would notice and he didn't. So does that mean he trust me b/c he didn't pay attention or did i betrayed his trust in me.Im not sayin for him to hire an investorgator or be a spy. i just need attention.show me that he care.
2006-09-12 16:28:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The problem is he doesn't treat me like im his wife.We sleep in different rms which i've got use to and don't mind at times. I feel like im his girlfriend or roomates.I've try to communicate. Counseling may help but it has to be up to him.Im a good wife &mother I do what needs to be done and he says I make him Happy.I believe he loves me & I love him but i don't think we're in love with each other.
2006-09-12 16:29:06 · update #1
I feel really sorry for you, it sounds like you and your husband don't communicate much anymore. Who initiated sleeping in different rooms? If it was him I would suggest some couples counselling as it sounds like there is definitely something wrong. I am not saying he should be really overprotective, but it is always nice to have someone at least "notice" you
2006-09-12 16:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by Knowitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't stand it when my wife doesn't pay any attention to me, which is most of the time. She says she loves me but I like to be shown. I usually try to go out of my way to show her I love her, but lately I am becoming so resentful I've begun to withhold affection. It really becomes a vicious cycle. I do not have have the sort of wife I can discuss this with. I hope you can discuss it with your husband before it starts to eat away at the relationship. Myself , I am contemplating divorce.
2006-09-12 16:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by noname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, im no counselor, but the separate rooms thing is a definite sign that you need to talk and soon! Marriage should be thriving with sex unless your kids have gotten in the way and then you have to be creative, but separate rooms?... i'd worry more about that and less about trying to get attention!
2006-09-12 16:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its b/c he may say he loves u but he could be saying that to make u feel good in side and the reason he dont call u on ur whereables is b/c he dont care where u r if he really loved u like he says he does he would call u to see where u r and to see if ur ok guys just seem to think that we dont get them at times when it comes to things like this but some of us women do get them when it comes to things like this. talk to him about it ask him y he dont call u to see about ur where abouts thats the only way ur going to get ur true answer
2006-09-12 16:40:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he gay? how long have u been married. My parents have been married over 50 yrs, and they sleep in seperate beds because of health reasons... you sound like a young woman... what the hell? It sounds to me like you need to get some spice in this relationship. why don't you walk in with some high heel shoes or something.
If nothing else works... ask him if he is gay!
2006-09-12 16:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by lester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK, IM GOING TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH, HE DOESNT LIKE YOU,HE MAY ALSO VERY WELL BE CHEATING ON YOU, BUT IM VERY SURE HE DOESNT LIKE YOU.SO WHY WOULD HE PAY ATTENTION TO YOU?DONT WASTE YOUR TIME WITH HIM, OR AT LEAST GET A BOYFRIEND SO YOU CAN HAVE SOMEONE TO GIVE YOU ATTENTION.
2006-09-12 16:37:08 · answer #6 · answered by GLUK S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've answered your own question. if you're not in love with each other then that's probably the reason he seems unconcerned with your whereabouts
2006-09-12 16:31:35 · answer #7 · answered by SweetnSour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him thease things not me cant help u sweetie
2006-09-12 16:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋