I dont know this lady well. Met her once and have been chatting on and off via msn.
Gave her some money even before we met. She wants to go through divorce because her hubby have committed adultry and insane. She have a lover but because she wants to have custody of her kids and do not want to break up a marriage, she decided to give up on her lover. Her life is a mess and she need help financially too.
I like her and feel like helping her financially though I have my own debts but worried that this might be a scam.
Even if this is not a scam and her problems are genuine. Should I help her financially???
2006-09-12 16:25:04 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sam....you must have a twin cause there's no way one person could be that stupid!!
All joking aside, you have your own financial problems. If you have an urge to commit an act of kindness....give her advice and support. Not money. Dude....you don't even know her!!
Just my thoughts.....
2006-09-12 17:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know this woman from a bar of soap. Every word she has told you could be a lie. Before giving her anything, you MUST check out her circumstances first, in detail. You shouldn't give her anything until you have met her several times over several weeks, and preferably seen where she lives and met the kids.
If you really insist on giving her money, then only give her what you can afford to lose, because there's a very good chance she will never pay it back - even if she is genuine.
If you do plan to lend her money, I suggest you draw up a document (it doesn't have to be done by a lawyer, just write something up) and ask her to sign it BEFORE handing over the cash. Tell her that to make it legal, you also need to take a copy of her driver's licence (or some other photo ID, depending what country you are in). If she doesn't just pull it out of her wallet (maybe she says she'll bring you a photocopy), be immediately suspicious - she's probably going to fake it.
2006-09-12 16:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel rich and am okay even if she do not return the money to you, then help by all means. :)
Money go out usually very easy one.. they will come and collect from you even if they are in Malaysia... but you want to chase money back, that would be something even more difficult than climbing mount everest.
Most people are quick to borrow but slow to return.. some even conveniently forget and DUN RETURN.
If you want to help.. just help and dun expect anything in return. If you cannot do that, then dun try to be heroe and end up having 'heart pain' when things go wrong.
There is nothing wrong with not helping anyway. Actually, it is her life. She can get out of the mess herself. SG is a place where it is very easy to make money as long as you willing to work hard. Problem is.. is she willing to do tat? Or is she looking for the easier way out? Maybe just act vulnerable and people will lend her money?
I also have children to feed leh.. if you are feeling generous, can also donate money to me.. hahaha ;)
2006-09-12 16:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not give this woman any money. You don't know if she's telling you the truth or just using you for money. Her problems are not your problems. You don't owe this person anything. And she isn't giving you anything in return. You have your own debts to pay. Don't worry about her problems. I know you seem nice and want to help, but she could be using the money you give her for other things! And you don't know her very well. You can't trust this person.
2006-09-12 16:32:54 · answer #4 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy?? This is some one you barely know, may or may not have these problems, and I suspect she smells easy money. There are lawyers that will help pro bono, and womens support groups that will be there for her if this is legit.
It sounds like you have a big heart, but it also sounds like you are a little nervous about this situation anyway, or you wouldnt be asking this question. Channel your heart and energy into something that is real, such as a cause or charity in your local area. Good luck!
2006-09-12 16:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by little1missy1234 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on the person, but I bet there are a lot of more desperate people. I am very leary of this type of thing, my money is hard to come by and I also have family of my own that could use my help. I would hope that this lady is honest buy how do you know????? I would WANT to know myself. You sound very kind hearted but just don't get used.
2006-09-12 16:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hit the nail on the head, it is probably a scam. She is an adult who wants her cake and eat it too. Do NOT give her money. It is her life and her mess to get out of. You have your own life and expenses to take care of.
Look for some one who does not have so much baggage, You are a great catch for a woman who deserves you.
2006-09-12 16:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by pleeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg, DO NOT fall for this! If you haven't even met the woman in person she might be making all of this up. She could be lying to you about everything just to get money. Helping this woman would be a big mistake.
2006-09-12 17:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, your asking for trouble. You had better know for sure first. take it from one who got scammed. I learned the hard way by falling for this bs.
take it from me. for get it. your going to get cleaned out.
I know a man from Australia (wont give name or details) got taken . HOW do you know where she is even at ?you dont.
stop the money unless you like being a sucker.Just because she use's msn does not make things right! people all over the world use it .
2006-09-12 16:31:49 · answer #9 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! Even if it isn't a scam, I would never give money to some random person that I met online unless I knew them for at least half a year.
2006-09-12 16:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋