HELP!! I think I might?

Question

cheat on my husband.

I'm married, but curious what it would be like to have sex with another man. This has become a big fascination with me lately. I'm nearing the point of no return...

Would I be lower than scum if I slept with someone else? I've only been with my husband, and I want to know what it feels like to be with another person.

I don't plan on making it a habit, I just want to feel something new and different.

Help...

Answer 1

Find a adult store and buy you a dildo or buy one off the net. They come in all shapes and sizes and chances are your hubby will get into you getting into it!.........don't do the other, its not worth it!

Answer 2

Your married, that creates a problem. Before you indulge in your fantasies (and we all have them) talk to your husband that you want to spice up your sex life with him. Try different things, maybe some role playing, go to a local adult store (if you're both ok with that) and get some toys. Get the romance back in your lives. This might satisfy you without the desire to cheat. The second option and this is VERY controversial is to invite another couple into your sex lives. However! you and your husband must be 100% comfortable with this idea. You cannot have it all your way, if he agrees for another man to have you, you must agree for another woman to have him if that is what he wants. If you both choose this, set the all the rules, boundaries and do's and dont's ahead of time. You husband might be open to the idea more than you think. Do not cheat on him no matter what if you are married. Your husband does not deserve you to cheat on him, you made a vow and if you cannot stick to it, you owe it to yourself and him to end the marriage. These desires you have if not squashed or satisfied in a reasonable way will lead your marriage onto the road of destruction. The few hours of enjoyment you will get from cheating will be but a fleeting moment.

Answer 3

Don't do it!!! It may seem like a very tempting thing to do but you have to keep priorities straight and really think about how your life is going to change from that moment on. Even if you don't tell your husband you are always going to have that in your conscience. What if he did the same to you, would you be ok with it after you find out??? I am in a similar situation. I have been happily married for 6 years. My husband was my first and not too long ago I was talking to a guy we were getting close and it past through my mind " what if I do it and nobody finds out??" Well, like you I asked the same question, in same site, you are asking now. The answers I reveived made me realize how much I had to lose, and thank God I did not do it. I stopped talking to that guy and instead I have explored new thing with my husband and things are great. Reading your question reminded me of how confused I was. I suggest you seek new things, new experiences together with your husband because if you don't and you are unfaithful to him it will hunt you for the rest of your life. Think things through very well before you take a huge step where there is no going back.. GGGOOOOOODDDDD LLLUUCCKKKK!!!!!

Answer 4

I too am experiencing the same feelings as you.

I really love my husband but am curious. I think it is just the thrill of doing it and not getting caught.

Your husband probably has the same thoughts, I think most people do.

You should talk to your husband about getting more adventurous like maybe swinging w/ another couple. My husband and I have both talked about this and feel we are both secure enough w/ each other to do such. If you and your husband are secure and not the jealous type it can work. You will feel better not sneaking and actually including your husband. If you two are jealous and insecure it WILL cost you your marriage. If that is the case just do it on your own and do not get caught.

Answer 5

Do yourself and your husband a favor, be honest and up front about the way that you feel. And give him and yourself a little latitude to discuss the situation.And give yourselfs a chance to work on this or go your separate ways. How would you feel if he sneaked around and cheated on you?Betrayed, I would think. This is something that could haunt you for the rest of your and his lives. You don't plan on making a habit out of it, just as an alcoholic never plans on getting drunk. But, it's progressive and although no one ever plans on it being a constant thing. It almost never works out the way that you plan.

Answer 6

Where in the hell are your priorities that you would throw away the relationship that you are in for the possibility of some exciting sex?

Get a porno and a dildo or use the imagination God gave you.

Don['t forget, if he is truly your husband, God probably gave HIM to you as well - boredom is never an excuse to cheat.

IF you are bored - GET A JOB, NOT A LOVER . or think, right this second - your husband might be contemplating some new p.u.s.s.y...I mean - he probably won't make it a habit - he just wants to check it out.

Answer 7

Call it what you want,it's wrong.You may not plan on it becoming a habit but it will.Something new means that what you have at home is old or getting old,and it means that you are not true to your marriage or the vows you took at the alter.If that's the case you yes you are about to ruin your marriage.Forget that idea and concentrate on your husband and what you too can do to make this marriage work.

Answer 8

Why are you thinking so much about being with someone else? That is the question I would be asking myself.
You made a vow, honor it. You would actually be willing to sacrifice your marriage because of idle curiosity??
You would be willing to jerk your husband's heart out and stomp on it for kicks?
Actually, now that I think about it, do your hubby a favor and dump him so he can go and find someone who values the love of a good man. The hurt will last awhile, but he will be waaaaaay better off without having to deal with a narcissist like you.

Answer 9

No, it wouldn't make you lower than scum... Just don't let anyone find out. Curiousity is understandable - perhaps if you have kids you can convey to them that there's nothing wrong in indulging in sex with different people before settling down with one. It only creates problems if you do it the other way around.

Answer 10

don't....everyone has this fantasy but to act on it can be disastrous especially if you have children....think about it, act it out in your head...it will be exciting and such at first but what about when your husband finds out and then your marriage is over, divorce and all that goes with that. and how would you feel if you knew your husband was thinking the exact same thing you are and is thinking of acting on it. try something new and different with your husband before you make probably the biggest mistake of your life. everyone who is together a long time gets bored with the routine but change IT before IT changes you.

Answer 11

Dont cheat it is not worth it to ruin your marriage or ruin how you will feel about yourself.

Tell him about your fascination you never know what he might be into. And it will become a habit. Once you sleep with one youll want to do it agian and agian.

If you want to sleep with others so bad leave your husband and explore your sexuality. I hope you both can explore it and stay married.

I wish you all the luck.