lesbian daughter's how to deal with?

Question

my friend's 17 yrs old lesbian daughter bite her wrist while having an argument! she said that her mother don't love her and she's jealous to her older sister. after one day she gave her mom a gift and on the card it says "sorry" is this true or she's just playing with her mom? my friend cries almost everyday for what her daughter did to her.

they are arguing about money, her daughter is asking for 2 thousand to go out for her bday. and by the way her mother already accepted her for what she is. she even allowed her gf to sleep in their house.

Answer 1

What do this question have to do with the daughter being a lesbian ? Did you just throw that in for color or so we can say owww she must be bad because she's a lesbian? She sound like a brat and need to be put in jail for assault but of course she will be grounded and maybe given a time out but for real she need to be taught a real lesson and after a night or 2 in jail she will wise up. Oh l found the lesbian part totally irrelevant to the question.

Answer 2

The girl has only began developing conceptual thought process five years ago, with 7 more years before she reaches full maturity. Right now her life is primarily controlled by her emotions and the simple urges of a child, including the desires to want something, but not the full understanding why she can't have it. The only reason females are declared adults at age 18 is because males are, and the reasons males are is because they can be drafted. But, they draft at that age because their brains are still so much mush that it is easier to manipulate them. Males don't reach adulthood until age 30.

Emotionally, the girl does feel sorry for what she did. As a child, she hurt her mother. As a child, who thinks she's almost an adult, she thinks she knows her own mind. Also, as a child who thinks she is almost an adult, she is trying to rebel against the authority of her mother, but her child side is telling her that she is wrong. One of the problems with having the age of maturity at age 18. Further, she may or may not be a lesbian. She may just not be attracted to males, and has been told that it means that she's a lesbian, when in reality, she may be asexual, with no sexual attraction to either sex. That can be very confusing for a teenager.

Children are generally asexual until puberty, so ones who develop late, which we are seeing a lot more of in recent years, she may not yet have developed the strong attractions to males. This is not a definite, so don't assume anything, but as we see the emergence of a new species of human who are longer living, and maturing slower, we will be seeing much more of it in the coming decades.

She has to understand that for now, her mother has the control. It will be another year before she has her own control, and then she will have 70+ years to be anything she wants or feels she is. Click on my image and go to my Yahoo 360 page. You will find a a pie chart there that will be of use to you. Right click on it and save it to your computer. Print it out and have the mother pin it up on the girl's bedroom wall. It will show her how little time her mother has control over her, compared to how much she has her own control.

Answer 3

I think there is more going on than the fact the girl is lesbian. It looks like there may be some other deep psychological issues here. I think she really is apologizing, but I find it strange that the girl bit her. If this kind of behavior continues, they both need help. If the daughter aplogized, why does the mother still cry over it? If the behavior is not continuing, but the mother is obsessing, she needs help. Most likely, both should go to a reliable counselor to resolve their issues.

Answer 4

allot of people do stupid stuff when their upset and angry, and usually tend to be sorry afterwords. i think the daughter is sorry. i also don't know what they were arguing about. was it the older sister, or because she's a lesbian. older sister no big deal, lesbian , it's hard for mothers to accept this. but it's part of life. maybe the mother has some of the blame to. i think she's sorry.

Answer 5

This sounds like it needs time to heal-is your friend religious or spirtiual? And was the arguement about her being lesbian? I think your friend and her daughter want to have a good relationship but it sounds like their is pressure somewhere else besides between the two of them-maybe other family members? Maybe they make her-your friend feel bad about having a lesbian daughter-some people are mean like.

Answer 6

You mean that the daughter bit her mother? If that's the case, this girl needs some serious anger management. I don't understand what her being a lesbian has to do with anything though???

Answer 7

I am 22 and a lesbian. Its clear that the daughter is acting out. I mean you wouldn't think I was one if you seen me out on the streets. Lesbians act no different so labling herself as one and using that reason to bite her mother? Thats no reason. I agree with Papa Bear though. She isn't fully mature enough to realize that its just a childish act to garner attention.

Answer 8

I have a gay cousin. He doesnt act ne different than ne1 i know thats straight. the daughter was just acted like a pretty average mad 17 yr old the way these days r. Even the queer act just as normal then these others. She just needs spoken to normal about what she did was wrong.

Answer 9

the girl shouldn't have bit her mom. that was totally wrong. but as far as the mom being hurt because her daughter is gay, that is always hard to accept. i have a sister who is a lesbian. at first mom was really upset but she said if you love your kids you learn to accept their life stile, she loved her girlfriend as much as some of her son in laws, all you can do is hope for the best.

Answer 10

At 17, she should be able to accept it. This is part of our society now. Mom knows what she is doing. Miss 17 is looking for attention for herself. She is wanting mom all to herself. Unless she is being abused in some way or neglected, deal with it and let mom live her own life, you selfish little brat.