my bestfriend is avoiding me,&telling me me ishould'nt leave what should i do?

Question

we have been bestfriends for about 15yrs i have told her about a yr after we met that i have fallen n lv with her but she didn't want to hear of it so we remained frds all this time in&out of relationships until yrs later we got close again for 1/12 now well i told her again that i still feel the same& she did'nt want to hear of it but the last 10 months we got even closer we depend on ea other for just about everything we laugh cry talk go places we bth like we are happy together but since i have told her i will be gone bk home cos my moms house is being rebuilt down inLa she does not want me to move she says she would be lost without me she has been giving me some body language signs and the way she acts when always by bonjovie coms on she says thats our song and she tears up i think shes in deneil about her real feelings for me cos now she has ben avoiding me for the last week and i have been under a lot of stress i almost went in the hosp from chest painsShe says stay cos of stress

and to let my sister take care of my mother for a while my mother only has two kids me&my sister i don't want to leave her here it hurts to even talk about it she says she can't go down there that if we can start a small bussiness than maybe she will when i ask her whats been bothering her she says nothing but when i told her about me going to er cos of cheast pains she right away said i should stay but i gotta mom to think about too how should i work this out and do you think she sounds like shes in deneil about her feelings for me? thanks to all

Answer 1

It just sounds to me like you are her best friend. I'm not sure if she has other feelings for you or not. I think you should not bring up your feelings for her again, you may end up pushing her further away.

Answer 2

Your buddy may be keeping off you with the aid of fact there are some new themes she has to stand. Being fans after being acquaintances for 15 years is a important step. additionally you're shifting away, so as this is a important subject and he or she is probable having various issues coping with that. She probable is getting mixed alerts. You declare you like her yet you should circulate faraway from her. that ought to confuse me too. think of in case you 2 strengthen into fans, and a few thing undesirable occurs. Will you have the flexibility to be basically acquaintances lower back... or will you throw away 15 years of friendship. i could basically confront your buddy and ask her why she is keeping off you. Its comprehensible that she doesnt prefer to circulate away her abode, and which you do no longer prefer to circulate away her. attempt to locate a appropriate compromise in this mess.