2006-09-12 15:46:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
Listen to those who have advised you to be yourself. Being that much overweight isn't *good* for you, but there are a lot of things that factor in, such as plain ol' genetics. Some people are just large and never overeat. Others are just super skinny and eat like hogs.
If YOU are comfortable with yourself, then BE yourself. Consider some of the large, beautiful ladies that so many love such as Aretha Franklin, Queen Latifa, Delta Burke, Kirstie Alley (off and on *L*), Mama Cass, etc. All of these ladies are or have been large. All of them found their own unique style, they played up their strong points, developed a brilliant fashion sense and used it to their advantage and, i assure you, none of them had/have any trouble getting a date or a husband.
If you're young (in your teens), then these years are going to be a bit more difficult for you than for the "average" girl, but who wants to be an average girl? You won't have any more difficulties than the girls that are very tall. And, remember, teenaged boys are, for the most part, the very last *thing* any girl wants to measure herself by. Not all are like that, of course; but, most teenaged boys are nothing but one walking hormone and all of their attention and actions is dictated by the .... smaller parts of them.
Don't worry about the guys. Develop a strong network of all kinds of girlfriends, develop a healthy self-image, work on developing your own tasteful, elegant style and all things, including dates, will come in time.
If you want to lose weight, there are many avenues you can explore.
But let me ask you this: do you want someone asking you out because you fit their image of what they want to see? Or would you rather someone ask you out because he recognizes what a wonderful, beautiful individual you are and appreciates you for that?
And, one last thing: years ago i worked with a young woman who was likely one of the most beautiful young women I'd ever seen .. oh, i was almost jealous because she was so beautiful. One day, she and I were talking about the upcoming weekend and she asked if i had plans and i mentioned that i had a date and she said to me "Oh, i'm SO jealous! I can't tell you the last time i had a date!" I was dumbfounded! I said "You're joking, right?" And she told me that she was aware that she was way beyond average in appearance; she knew that she was stunningly beautiful and she wished she weren't. HUH?! She went on to say that because she was so beautiful and blessed with a picture-perfect figure and gorgeous hair, etc., that all men **assumed** she must have a boyfriend and, because of that, she seldom had more than a couple of dates a year. WOW! That was an aspect i'd never thought about.
2006-09-12 16:21:02 · answer #1 · answered by just common sense 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think confidence draws guys to girls. If you can find the inner beauty in yourself, then it will shine through on the outside. We live in a society where looks have become top priority, but there are guys out there who are looking for the girl that looks amazing on the inside and has the confidence to show it off! Being over weight does not mean you cannot look presentable. You can have an awesome hairstyle, a great smile, or fabulous fashion sense. So be the true, beautiful woman you were made to be. Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-09-12 15:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by Annieo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys prefer bigger women..they say they like the because they don't feel they will "brake them" when having sex. though there are guys who will not go out with bigger women...plus it depends on how the woman carries her weight. how she is proportioned and how she dresses. A woman who is over weight but has a size C chest most of the time is less likely to find a man then a over weight woman with an E sized chest...But bigger girls also have to be careful because the bigger they get the more health problems they are likely to have...If you are happy with your body then just wait there is someone out there for you..
2006-09-12 16:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a good possiblity, 90 % of the guys are into girls that look like death done wore over them. Starving girls. Sometimes, you find guys who look for personality and or something else in a women and not just looks.
2006-09-12 15:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by pits_me1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age most guys won't want to go out with her.
But there are some guys that either won't care because they like her just for herself......and there are some guys that really like bigger girls.
2006-09-12 15:50:21 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. The problem is the girl can get a guy, but probably a guy with some baggage.
2006-09-12 15:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by Stan the answer Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest and blunt, I used to pick chubby girls when I was a teen to hit on because I figured they were desparate and more likely to put out. My pyschology worked.....
Of course now I regret such things, but when your young you don't always care about such things.
2006-09-12 15:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by deltaxray7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy, you know that already.
And don't let a MAN define your worth.
if you feel good, then hey, live your life.
If you feel like you want to make some changes, then go for it. But do it for you, not for any man..cuz baby, no man is worth your tears!
NO MAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS!
2006-09-12 15:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You bet!! No one wants to be seen with a whale in this day and age when thin is in and exterior beauty counts more than anything. Would Britney Spears be so h-a-w-t if she weighed 250?
2006-09-12 15:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by christopher s 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the guy. Some guys will prefer bigger girls and some will like smaller girls. Take care : )
2006-09-12 15:49:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋