THIS IS THE QUESTION I JUST POSTED, BUT DUE TO APPARENT CONFUSION, I HAVE ADDED TO IT (AT THE BOTTOM IN CAPS): I broke up with my ex a while back bc we live 8 hrs apart and long distance relationships are rough! i dont care how in love you are with eachother. We agreed to date other people until we get back together. Just to see what happens, i guess. Well, i have dated people, but i can't help but want his hugs, his kisses, his presence. I am now a freshman in college, still 8 hours from him (a junior in college). Should i transfer schools to be with him? I feel like it is tearing me apart not being with him.
I AM THE FRESHMAN IN COLLEGE, HE IS A JUNIOR.
I HAVE FAMILY 45 MIN FROM THE COLLEGE HE GOES TO.
MY SISTER GOES TO THAT COLLEGE.
I WAS BORN IN THE STATE THE COLLEGE IS IN.
I WOULD BE THIRD GENERATION AT THIS COLLEGE.
I HAVE A LOT OF FRIENDS THERE.
AS FOR THE COLLEGE I AM CURRENTLY AT, IT IS IN A BAD CITY. HE HAS MENTIONED MOVING HERE EVEN THOUGH HE HATES IT. I SAID NO.
2006-09-12 15:42:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yep, i'm still the freshman in college, he is the junior.
I AM THE FRESHMAN.
i am NOT a junior.
2006-09-12 15:55:14 · update #1
If it helps, i go to the university of memphis.
i am going here only because i didnt have the ACT score to get into the college he is at.
i didnt origionally want to go to this college.
there are a lot of things that bother me about this college as far as the set-up is and the way they run it. the funds suck, despite how much i am paying in tuition and fees.
i love the people here, generally, but hate the location. i have lived in memphis for 15 years.
college at the UofM is like high school all over again, in a way.
i am constantly seeing familiar faces. i like that, but i want a change.
2006-09-12 15:59:33 · update #2
Um...No
2006-09-12 15:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by USMCstingray 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know that distance can be really rough on a relationship but before you do anything make sure that he still feels the same way and both of you have to be completely truthful. You don't want to go into this all with lies as your foundation of your relationship. If he still does, then make sure that you are able to find that same qualities that you liked about your school as far as academics, living arrangements, etc are concerned. Remember that school is for education and relationship can take a second place. If it's love, it'll wait for you to get your life in order first. Best wishes and take care.
2006-09-12 22:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by mothergoose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first response is to say No..But thinking more about it... I'd probably want to leave too. I myself have made a lot of decisions about my choice of colleges due to how it may effect my situation with other ppI. I'm learning first hand that in the end It should only depend on If I really don't want to be there, and that's the only thing I can say to you. If you don't like the college your at then yes go... transfer to another school.. But don't let your decision be based on anyone else, because in the end your really the only person who has to deal with the consequences. Not your ex, your family or even your friends. Just YOU!
2006-09-12 22:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by PinkyCocoa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not transfer schools.
You picked this school because it fit your idea of your future as you saw it. Switching schools for a mate would always be a mistake. If you and he were meant to be, you will be whether it be now or 5 years in the future. If you do this and you two make it past these initial stages, what would you do next and/or what would he expect you to do in the future?
Your life should be something like this...
Finish your degree as you saw it a few years ago.
Get a job where ever it takes you.
Work in your field.
Buy a house.
Find a mate to share the rest of your life with.
Anything outside that order is inviting hardship...
2006-09-12 22:53:44 · answer #4 · answered by JD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends-- does this other school have the program that you are interested in? If so, how does it compare to the school you are at now? While it is clear that you love him and he loves you, be sure to do what is best for you-- don't sacrifice your future because you miss him. However, if this other school is a good fit for you, it may not be a bad idea. Its good that you would be near family, as well.
2006-09-12 22:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by Hugo Reyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TMI
I think that you should focus on your career. Boyfriends will come and go, but your education will never depart from you or hurt you.
I am by far no expert on long distance relationships, but I think that you can go visit him every free chance you get, but do not forsake your school work.
Everything has it's own time. A time to laugh, etc....
2006-09-12 22:47:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer is staring you at the face,,,,,go and transfer in his school not only because he is there but because you think that you are currently in a bad city you obviously cant grow in that environment, you also have a nearby family there, you are born in that state, and you have lots of friends there
you really have not much of a problem here
go transfer!!!!!
2006-09-12 22:46:22 · answer #7 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No - you should try online dating. Just Kidding. I'm not big on love so I wouldn't move to date somebody. Of course though people are different so you should move and be with the one you love. -Since you miss him.
2006-09-12 22:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously if you have all those positives of moving there then you should, unless you are really happy at the school you are at and doing really well, i see no reason for you to stay where you are. Especially if you really love him.
2006-09-12 22:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as he's not the only reason you'd be moving back there ... make sure he still wants to be with you in a relationship and make sure you really want to move back there ... question yourself ... are you miserable where you are now because of him or because of the environment? make this move about you not him.
2006-09-12 22:45:28 · answer #10 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A junior in college asking stupid questions to people of the general population, you must be studing stupid questions class, my advice, learn more stupid questions, then come back here and show off your stupidity
2006-09-12 22:47:42 · answer #11 · answered by captcruzer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋