Have you ever been in a longterm relationship and discoverd that you were in love with someone else? What did you do?
2006-09-12 15:35:58 · 19 answers · asked by peaches 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, I havn't - I'm not sure what you should do. I've been with my childhood sweetheart since we were born (cribs next to each other, best friends growing up, started dating at 13, engaged at 18, married at 19), and neither one of us has ever crushed on, much less loved, someone else. If I were you, I'd be honest with the guy you are with now, and tell him that you need some space to sort out your feelings on what to do with your life. That it has nothing to do with him, you just need to think things through. Are you having an affair on him - or is it just a friendship with another man thats turned into something more? talk it out with the other guy. If the man you are with is your true love, then chances are, this other guy is just an infatuation. You might be having commited fears, or possibly bored of routine. Thing it all through before you start confessing to them. Either way, don't lie to the man in your life now...its better to hurt now and heal quicker then to drag the suffering out. And dont lead this other man on...not just for the same reasons, but because it will only end up being thrown back in your face later on. Honesty is the best policy - lame, but true.
2006-09-12 18:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by Cherished_Bride 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for over 10 years now. I'm still madly in love with my husband. No, I haven't "fallen" for anyone else and I can't imagine that I ever would. He is the perfect man for me. He's considerate, sensitive and loving. He's always thinking of me and truly knows me more than I know myself. You know those times when you feel like you want a snack but you don't know what that snack is? Well, all I have to do is ask him "I feel like something, what is it?" and he would know what I want. I love him and vowed to share my love and life with him and I would never even think about leaving him for some stupid fling. I hope that everyone can find this same kind of love with someone special. Best wishes and take care.
2006-09-12 22:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by mothergoose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I was married and believe to have found my soul mate something that I never believed in. I could say that sexually i never cheated on my husband. But emotionally yes. I was so in love with this man and still deep in my heart i still am. I let this man go because I was married and had a child and was afraid to leave what I had. This other man has since married and is going to have a child now and although i am not married anymore (and not because of this) we still talk once in awhile but he is happy and I am happy for him. If he was to ever get divorced i would try to see what would come of a relationship but i will never be the reason for a divorce for him and his wife. I let the one and only man i truely felt loved me for someone that has always loved his car more than me.
2006-09-12 22:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been in love with the same man for about 6 years and when i got divorced the first time we saw one another for 2 years. He had other things going on and did not want to drag me and my children through his stuff. I met another man and i was missing my best freind and i married the new man and have been married to him for 5 years but i still love my best freind. I always will. What do i do. We talk off and on all the time. We keep in touch as much as we can. No my husband does not know.
2006-09-12 22:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I havent but it happened to me. I was married and he found he was in love with someone else. He wasent honest up front which was a blow later on. I would say if it was you that has realized you were in love with someone else tell your long term ASAP. Its very wrong to leave that person hanging or holding on when you dont feel the same.
2006-09-12 22:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for a year and a half and in love with my best male friend (had been for three years). When my marriage began to colapse, he and I became very close during those months. I was planning on leaving but trying to find a place to go when I found out he loved me, too. I left my husband, got divorced, and now he and I are very happy together. :-)
2006-09-12 22:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by serena_dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no I have found myself not loving my mate i made a choice to love him and sometimes that isn't easy but that is the choice that i make and when i need too make it consciously I do nice things for him...like a romantic evening or part of his to do list my fav is fixing his favorite meal and turning the radio on low and dressing up we make a night of it
and maybe the most important the memories of happy times and why i fell for him in the first place
2006-09-12 22:49:42 · answer #7 · answered by Star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. I was crazy in love with two of my previous boyfriends when I was involved with other men. I'm married now and I still sometimes think about them.
Don't pursue the other man unless you have good reason to believe that they still want you...
2006-09-12 22:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by carobygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thankfully, I've never had that happen. If you are in love with someone else, you must not truely love the one you are with. I would leave my long term relationship, it's not fair to you or your partner if you are in love with someone else.
2006-09-12 22:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, have never had it happen... Once I'm in a long-term relationship, I'm too focused on the one person to pay attention to the rest of the world! :)
2006-09-12 22:42:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋