whether it be lying, abuse, cheating, etc.. why did you decide to take them back? did they have a good reason for doing what they did? how did you know they were truly sorry and wanted to change?
ps please dont say "i dont forgive that stuff".. that is not the question
2006-09-12 15:27:56 · 9 answers · asked by mervelash 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you really love someone who has wronged or abused you, it's better to give him another chance to prove that he really was sorry for what he did and that he would be willing to change for the better. And when you forgive him, forgive with all your heart and don't let that hurting past haunt your relationship like a ghost forever.
Men by nature are polygamous. That is why in cases of infidelity, this is always what people say but this should not be used by men as an excuse or alibi for their being infidels. However, a woman who understands this side of men will take infidelity as just a natural phenomenon for a man who wants to show his manliness.
A man who is truly sorry for what he has done against his girlfriend or wife will never do the same thing again to spare the woman of his life from the heartaches which she experienced during the first feat of infidelity. He shows more concern and a deeper love for his girl and always considers her feelings so that this time he will not do anything that may destroy such relationship which has passed its first test.
Remember, love survives all tests of time when honesty, trust, love, understanding and concern live in the hearts of the two persons in love.
2006-09-12 15:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex girlfriend came to visit me after a 3 and half month "long distance" relationship and things didn't go so well, so I e-mailed her about a week after she went home asking where I stood and she threw some mean, insensitive things in my face about me in the reply without regards for my feelings...stuff that was uncalled for...I got mad and replied in anger...said some stuff I shouldn't have and I want to forgive her and her to forgive me and be friends but I'm unsure I'd ever get back with her because it would never be the same! She's a good woman but I never would have replied to her like that if it had been the other way around and she's unwilling to discuss it anyway right now...I hope maybe some day she will!
2006-09-12 15:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by Damned fan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could not forgive my ex. for cheating. I tried for 5 years and could not let it go. I tried but for some reason i just could not. The trust was gone and it would not come back. We get alone fine now. Everybody has to deal with their own demons. No one on here can tell you what to do. You have to do what you think is right. I do add one thing to this. If there is abuse involved there is no forgiveness for that in my eyes. Abuse is not love. It is hatred and that will never change.
2006-09-12 15:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are TWo main things that i cant forgive about
"let us be separated"
and
"stupidity"
im coool with cheating...and about abusing? im a mastes in martial arts, he wont do that to me...
i ave forgive a guy who dumped me and wants me back, he had a good reason (misscommunication) so that i know that he cant lose any contact with me.
he is truly sorry, i know...he is changing... a lot even, lucky me...
in another hand, he knows me better llike i did to him..
but if in anycase, he's just liying,or just want u back, he wouldnt change...
give him support and watch him...
if he 's still doing things that u two had deal that he wont do again...
u better kick him @$$!!
be strong, lady!
2006-09-12 15:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by ribbon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i found out that my man was chattin to this chick on the net flirting with her. she was full on n he was jus going on a ego trip. it was early in the relationship and we spoke about it. now were alot more open.
some things that u argue about helps bring you closer cos it brings things to a head and gets resolved.
but my question to you is why are you asking this? what are you comtemplating forgiving.
2006-09-12 15:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by amor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have forgiven but have never gone back to that relationship because no doubt it will happen again.
2006-09-12 15:43:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is all about forgiveness. You must forgive anyone who does you wrong, that doesn't mean that you forget what they did though.
2006-09-12 15:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz " i loved him " isn't that the #1 reason us women do stupid things? waste of a few (7 ) good years ( other than the beautiful daughter he's never helped support )
2006-09-12 15:37:32 · answer #8 · answered by chereeder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let the one who has not sinned throw the first stone.
2006-09-12 15:29:48 · answer #9 · answered by hsarora47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋