Last Friday night a bunch of my friends and I went out to eat. Jessikah (my best friend) went too. Things started getting stirred up and supposibly someone made a rumor up about someone not wanting her there. She left and told me we should hang out the next day. I messaged her and she said she didn't want to hang out and she was in a bad mood. She always seems to bail out on me but she's been through a lot (parents divorcing) and I've given her space. I tried to call her but she didn't pick up. She picked up the phone, cussed me out and said she didn't want to deal with my ****. I said nothing except she needs to stop moping around. I've been there for her countless times and a heck of a lot more than she has for me. Should I wait for her apology or try to work something out? We've been best friends since middle school...but its not my fault and I'm tired of being the one that always apologizes even when its not my fault. Serious answers only...
2006-09-12 15:23:03 · 13 answers · asked by Miranda M. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't throw that friendship away just yet.
It sounds like she needs you in her life, especially since things aren't going so well in hers. She could be lashing out at you because you and she are so close - that's what people do the ones they love. I know, it doesn't make sense, but it's all about security. You've proven to her already that you'll be there for her, so she feels safe with you in a way she doesn't with her parents right now.
Doesn't mean she should be mean to you, though. It's good to include her in group activities, but it may take her a while before she's back to her usual self.
You haven't said if you're still talking or not since this incident; if not, call her and if you don't feel you should apologize for the latest thing, then don't. Simply chat like you usually do.
2006-09-12 15:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the shoes on YOUR feet - how would you feel if someone that you thought was a friend sat there and allowed other so-called friends start a rumor that you weren't wanted? It certainly wouldn't make me want to be very friendly to any of them (you included).
If she was your friend, you should have stuck up for her when the rumor was going around. Her feelings were hurt and you should apologize for not sticking up for her IN FRONT of the nasty people. People that start rumors like that are bullies and mean - and they will start rumors about anybody, including you, as long as they can get away with it and nobody tells them to stop.
2006-09-12 15:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey I think u must give her some time, let her understand her mistake, I am sure she'll apologize to you, wen she has calmed down. If nothing works out for a long time, then u go 1st, till then wait.... cause she know's that u will make the 1st move as u've always done. & remember friendship is not a one sided affair, just as u've understood her she too must understand u, & must stop flinging her weight around. Anyways, All the Best!!
2006-09-12 15:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't call her anymore, give her some time, she probably wants to be alone, it's not easy when parents are getting divorced.....And if you didn't do anything wrong, why would you apologize? I think you should just leave things the way they are, just let a few days pass by and she'll probably talk to you first!!! Good Luck
2006-09-12 15:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by hey_amt95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 09:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, even though it is tough, you should apologize first. This would be the classy thing to do and it would show your friend you really care about her. She will come around and apologize as well if she truly values your friendship. Just try to keep being as understanding and as patient as possible. I promise your friend will appreciate it in the long run.
2006-09-12 15:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by GB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it sounds like you're a really caring friend. I would give her a few days to calm down and she will get in touch with you. It doesn't sound from your letter that you have done anything in particular wrong. When she is ready to talk, she will call, I promise. Good luck and God Bless!
2006-09-12 15:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by kevin_p0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the bigger person and apologize once again. It doesn't matter who is wrong. Forget about say I'm sorry. Then let her make the next move.
2006-09-12 15:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by zil28ennov 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are really her friend, you would try to help her with what she feels right now. it is hard, but that is why you are a friend right? if you give up on her right now then you can stop calling her your best friend.
2006-09-12 15:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a ‘friend’… They are very special people !!!
Don’t apologise… and don’t expect her to apologise either.
Perhaps you could drop a ‘friendship’ greeting card in her letter box…
A simple message…
Can we still be friends? I care about you, and your friendship is important to me !
2006-09-12 15:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋