I'm a 20 year old female and my fiance' wants me to be a 18th centry wife and stay home and take care of house and family while he supports us, I have no prob. with that except at the moment things we want we're unable to get because of the many things we have to do. I believe if I go to work we would get things much quicker but that is against his belief what do u think i should do?
2006-09-12 15:21:36 · 7 answers · asked by Raycheal D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I suggest you seriously consider which is more important to you-- being married or financial stability. Also, would you want to be home 24/7 without the ability to interact with other people in a work environment?
If you decide that this is really what you want, it sounds like you may have to sacrifice some of the things that you really want for the basics that you and your husband actually need.
Maybe ask if he will agree to you working part time to help with the bills.
Best of luck to you two.
2006-09-12 15:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by johnsredgloves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cannot support the lifestyle you seek, then regardless of what he says, do what you think is right. However, take into account how much you will truly be making at a job, after you deduct taxes, day care, additional transportation and clothing costs, etc. You may find that the amount earned is only a few dollars a week more, and that would hardly be worth having all the other work at home to do also, and the time spent away from the children.
2006-09-12 22:43:53 · answer #2 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not give up my financial independence this early in life. My fiancé and I are both in our 30s, we're getting married next month, and have an understanding that he will support the family once we have kids - while I will stay home and take care of the house. He can afford to do so as he has a successful business; I'm well advanced in my own career and have a good job - but I'm willing to give it up once we have children so I can take care of them. But there's absolutely no reason to become dependent on your husband if he 1) can't quite afford to provide for both of you; 2) you haven't finished your education or established a career and 3) there aren't kids to worry about. If he can't accept you working under these circumstances, perhaps you have some fundamental differences that need to be addressed and resolved before the wedding.
2006-09-12 22:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
work together to begin with.. then when he moves up higher in ranking of his job and starts to earn a sufficient amount of money to provide for an entire family, then you could stop working... however, if working is something that you want to do, and you think that your time is best suited for the work force instead of sitting at home, then that is up to you as well.... i know that my friend makes more than enough to support he and his wife.... but she would loathe the fact of sitting at home and twiddling her thumbs all day..... so she chooses to work.... it's a perssonal choice... and we can give you all of the advise in the world... but when it really comes down to it... you are the only one who can answer this question... what do you want??... have you asked yourself that lately????
2006-09-12 22:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can he afford to support you and the family? If so...go for it! And consider yourself lucky! But in the meantime, I would tell him you still want to get your education!
2006-09-12 22:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by Dorothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since u two r still in "fiancee" thingie not in the marriage yet...
u still have time to make compromise with him..
tell him ur opinion about it, but when he's refure try again but with a "stronger" intention..
guys used to think that he is in charge, he meant good, but everything is not always going like we expected...
give him ur reason, but never put him in difficult situation.
do what u can possibly do to ensure him, but never make him down..
but if he's stubborn still...kick him ***!!
2006-09-12 22:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by ribbon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well do you have a family yet? i would tell him to let you work until you had a family. why does he believe that anyways?
2006-09-12 22:25:42 · answer #7 · answered by lilredthetease 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋