I broke up with my ex a while back bc we live 8 hrs apart and long distance relationships are rough! i dont care how in love you are with eachother. We agreed to date other people until we get back together. Just to see what happens, i guess. Well, i have dated people, but i can't help but want his hugs, his kisses, his presence. I am now a freshman in college, still 8 hours from him (a junior in college). Should i transfer schools to be with him? I feel like it is tearing me apart not being with him.
2006-09-12 15:16:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I definitely would not but I am not you or in your position! I guess the question I would ask myself is...Would I regret this decision if it didn't work out with the person I am moving for? If you would...then you probably shouldn't because that is a very real possibility. If you are giving up being where you are at SOLELY for him and you have no one else there...you are setting yourself up to rely on him for everything (social, lover, friend, etc). You are a junior in college, you only have ONE year left (well...if you just became a junior...two years). If it is love it can wait a little bit longer. Use this time to date other people and keep an open mind about it! Some things to consider: How does he feel about this? Is he debating moving to be with YOU? Is he having trouble feeling a connection to people he dates? Just some things you should consider before you make a huge change to your life. Good luck whichever way it turns out for you both! : )
2006-09-12 15:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matters of the heart are not decided logically. Logically, you should move on with your life. You are young. There are plenty of people that would suit you and you have lots of time. Emotionally however, you feel an attachment.
Logically, I would suggest that you stick with your life goals and forget about your former love.
Emotionally however, I totally understand what you are going through. You know the answer and you have already made your choice. You don't really seek the answer from strangers, rather, you seek validation for what works within yourself.
Go back to him and see what happens. You can always go back to college 8 hrs away. Until you work this out to its natural conclusion, you will never have reached a resolution in your heart. You will always wonder "what if....."
Ideally, you will go back during a break and spend some serious time with him. REALLY get to know him. If you spend nonstop time with him, you will find out quickly if he is the right match for you. If he is, it will be obvious, if not, it will be obvious as well and you can resume your schooling at the present local.
One way or another, the question needs to be answered.
2006-09-12 22:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by Bernard B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! He would be a distraction to your education. You need to be able to meet other people. Don't meet guys with the mindset of dating. Just be friends and focus on school. When you least expect it, someone will show up and you'll forget about "ole whats his face."
And, how can you assume that he misses you on that level? Is he considering transferring to be closer to you? Never be willing to sacrifice something for someone else unless you are sure that they would be willing to sacrifice the same for you.
All you said was how much you want and need him and how it is tearing you apart... maybe he enjoys the distance.
2006-09-12 22:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by blessedwife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nooooo!!
You are young and you will eventually break up!!!
your education is more important!
2006-09-12 22:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by irishcharmer84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, if you feel that strongly about it. good luck
2006-09-12 22:19:48 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋