Prenuptial Agreement is too late for me now, I know. How about something else I could use to protect myself.
Please Advise...
2006-09-12 15:11:26 · 13 answers · asked by combat_1976 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
divorce her now before she is entitled to 1/2
2006-09-12 15:16:56 · answer #1 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me tell you the things you do today will come back to haunt you later on in life trust me. First sit down with your wife and discuss the situation like a man not an idiot ranting and raving throwing tantrums. Then explain your concerned about the money situation and wondering if you couldn't come to some kind of agreement such as we will work toward the same goals therefore we both should have access to the money and decide together as a team what will or will not be spent. You then could go over house hold finances as a team not one then the other or vice verse. You are now suppose to be working together in order for this to work you must be willing to compromise and discuss it rationally. It seems there is no communication going on and this causes arguments and bad feelings. The first thing in any marriage if it is going to be long lasting is truth and honesty or you might as well give up now and get a divorce. Better to know where you stand now then 10 years down the road and know you hate that woman's guts! lol Good Luck!!!!
2006-09-12 22:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by yahoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to have an indepth discussion with her as to the use of money, and then you need to begin to take more control over your own finances. A pre-nuptial agreement is usually used by the very wealthy to protect their assets but in most cases is both offensive and suspicious to the spouse. If this fails, then consider some of the financial consultants at banks...including services such as fixed deposits, and paying bills so as to insure your own credit safety. If there is a trustworthy person...must be 110% trustworthy...you could assign assets to him or her so that if a divorce were to take place, you would be protected. Even further, certain properties could be placed under a corporate veil. Act fast, as if you separate, the courts would allow inclusion of all material possessions for the past six months or in some places as long as five years.
2006-09-12 22:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by Frank 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no law that states that you and she have to have access to each other's money. I have friends that are married, yet maintain seperate checking and savings accounts. A couple even have their own credit cards.
I would sit down with her and talk to her about your feelings. More marriages end over money than anything else. You two need to talk about things, and come to a common ground. If she is just spending your money on herself, then she really needs to have a wake up call.
If she does not agree to stick to a budget, then I would just cut her off to all access of my money. Nothing says she has to be able to get to your money.
2006-09-12 22:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may well be that she just does not know how to handle money. You both should be on a written budget, and stick to it,
Any other money being spent should be agreed to by both parties beyond an amount you each have for personal issues.
Then the rest of the money is used to pay off debts, then start a emergancy savings account.
And also you are married, it is "our" money not "my money"
2006-09-12 22:18:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A day late and a dollar short as the old saying goes! Prenuptuials are for BEFORE you dive in head first! You better spend it before she does! She gets half in divorce and maybe more the way men get the short end of the stick!
2006-09-16 20:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but you can do a post nuptial agreement
just make sure she has her own lawyer so she can't come back and say unfair representation
either that divorce her now ( best option )
and NEVER remarry, there is simply nothing in it for you
hopefully you will not do smething stupid like get her pregnant, then she'l have her hooks into you for 18 years
2006-09-12 23:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard great things about Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University. He is a Christian financial counselor.
Maybe you and your wife could attend something like his school.
http://www.daveramsey.com/fpu/home/
2006-09-12 22:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by nobody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your wife to agree to separate accounts-your money and hers and one for expenses shared by both of you.
2006-09-12 22:17:05 · answer #9 · answered by tkron31 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move all your money to an account of shores where she'll get nothing in a divorce. or in a kids name with you as trustee
2006-09-12 22:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by mrmiketattoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋