2006-09-12 15:08:58 · 29 answers · asked by pamela s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
nothing wrong with that. are you having cybersex?
2006-09-12 15:49:18 · answer #1 · answered by Billie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If either one of you are currently involved with another partner, it is not cheating but it is not smart either.
It is kind of like keeping an emergency exit just in case the current relationship does not work out. Instead of learning how to work at a relationship to make it successful, it is easier to just bail out and run to the ex.
It also makes it easier for one or both of you to start having desires of getting back together again which is not fair to your current partner(s) unless the current partner is not a good person (in which case you should not be in that relationship anyway).
This can also lead to jealousy and insecurity with the new partner because there will always be feelings for the ex and the new partner should never have to compete with an ex.
If it is 1,000% certain that there is no way that you and your ex will ever get together again, then it is okay to talk to the ex provided that the current partner is aware of it and kept in the loop. There should never be any secrets and you should always keep the feelings and concerns of your current partner in the forefront of any decisions you make with an ex-partner.
Good luck to you!
2006-09-12 15:17:03 · answer #2 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're married and you feel that you still have feelings for your ex and you're talking romantically, then yes, could be considered cheating.. but if it's just a friendly talk and you are still single, nothing is wrong with that. But remember, one thing could lead to another, so it's better to stop when you sense some danger or you are doubtful wether what you are doing is harmless or not. Good luck.
2006-09-12 15:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by geeg70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you say cheating? Are you in another relationship? If so STOP talking to your ex's. There is no reason for it, or do you enjoy the fact that you are doing this behind your boyfriends back.
What other reasons are there for you to be doing this? Keeping the ex around in case your new relationship does not work out.
Leave the ex alone and concentrate on the new. If there is one.
2006-09-12 15:46:48 · answer #4 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you say to him. I talk to some of my ex-boyfriends online because we remand friends after the fact. Just because you are talking to them doesn't mean you are cheating unless you are talking sexual and that type of stuff. Your new man has to understand and trust you. I know that my boyfriend know that I still talk to some and he trusts me, he even talks to some of them because they are still nice people it just wasn't right between the 2 of us. I think it is perfectly ok from experience. Hope this helps you out, you have the right to still be friends.
2006-09-12 15:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by Renee32325 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being friends.... Howver, how do your current man feels about this and it all depends on what you too are talking about....
Always remember hes an ex for an reason
2006-09-12 15:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the need to hide the conversations from your current boyfriend then it is very much like cheating...
2006-09-12 15:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by carobygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it depends on your INTENTION. And, also if you are married, or not; that would make a difference to me in how I would answer your question!
But if YOU don't feel good about it; then I would suggest that it is you - after all - who has to live with your own gut feelings on this; so, if you don't really feel good about it, then don't do it. If you are alright about it; and your confident that it will not create complications; then go ahead.
Hope my answer helps you.
2006-09-12 15:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by Bluebells21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well think of it this way,, Does your boyfriend and or husband know that you are talking to him? if not it would probalby be considered cheating because you don't tell them about talking to him..
also depends alot on what you are talking about..
think about it . what would you think if your boy friend or hubby was talking to his ex online.
I don't think i would like it and i am not a jealous person..
is your boyfriend and him friends. or do they dis like each other.
alot of ways to look at it..
2006-09-12 15:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you married? if your not married you CAN'T cheat you have have pledged to be faithful. Anyway i am married i have one ex who now and then send messages i reply. I don't see him i don't have any messages with sexual context to or from him. I don't think it's cheating i would not allow it to get to that level if he even started asking funny questions or getting a Lil sexual I'd stop CONTACT right then.
2006-09-12 15:16:13 · answer #10 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it is cheating. It depends on the subject of their chat. If they are talking about reconciliation of their relationship, then that is cheating.
2006-09-12 15:20:54 · answer #11 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋