There are some coworkers of mine who I confide in and I tell them about my personal problems however it seems like they go behind my back and talk about my problems to other people who should not know what is going on.This has resulted for me not to have any kind of relationship with my coworkers
To mention other cases;I have a hard time trying to trust others because of events that had happend to me in my past( people deceiving me,back stabbed)
I am married to a wonderful man who I trust dearly and I do not have many friends.What approach can I use to start trusting people again?
2006-09-12 15:01:26 · 8 answers · asked by wsm0628 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't think the workplace is the best place to be discussing things about yourself on too personal a level; as you have found out, it can backfire; and cause problems. And you don't want those kinds of problems in the workplace.
The best thing is to have confidential talks with friends that are not connected to your work scene. It's great that you have a good marriage; and a husband you can really trust. But like most women, we really like to talk! But do yourself a favor and don't do it in the workplace. All the best for sorting out the current scene.
2006-09-12 15:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by Bluebells21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, but you do have a friend! That wonderful man you married. As to the others, take time to get to know people before discussing personel things. Lasting friendships grow slowly as trust - both ways- grows. Good Luck
2006-09-12 22:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by risa131313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't let one person represent everyone else. or even a few people, in your case. making friends is all about trusting people and learning to let others into your life. if you keep everything to yourself, which is totally okay though, you're gonna get lonely sometimes. you don't need to tell your secrets to people that you simply know because they may not be true friends. give yourself time to really dig deep and get to know others before you decide whether or not you can trust them. it might take time but it'll totally be worth it in the end. good luck!!
2006-09-12 22:05:40 · answer #3 · answered by jgmice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just use some more common sense with the whole thing. I mean, if you really don't have to share the info....don't. And you should probe around, use your gut instinct to see who you think is trustful.
2006-09-12 22:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by brewbeer212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really difficult
but my experience is that if u dnt do bad to other then even evil person would not harm u.
By God grace every person i met in this world look good to me.
but u r girl.............
2006-09-12 22:06:38 · answer #5 · answered by rav 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. All they'll do is stab you in the back, lie to you, or otherwise use your honesty against you.
2006-09-12 22:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should always be picky about who you choose as your friends. Don't seek out quantitly...but rather quality.
2006-09-12 22:10:05 · answer #7 · answered by Maggie Mae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At work?
Forget it.
only your closest friends and family.
Co-workers and acquaintances do not count.
2006-09-12 22:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by Yes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋