I've been pondering why all the people i consider as close friends as well as aquaintances never seem to call/ email me check how I am arrange outings etc
It always is the case where i'd have to contact them To prove my theory usually i'd try to keep in contact with them on a fortnightly basis due to my busy work schedule i stopped calling everyone for a month but no calls/emails sms's whatsoever
So if i make the effort what reason would they have for not doing so in return?
2006-09-12 14:58:08 · 6 answers · asked by heikz_h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sometimes people have the best of intentions, but for one reason or another, they just never get around to doing things they want or should do. Why don't you point blank ask these friends and acquaintances why you never hear from them unless you make the first moves. You'll probably wind up with a lot of different excuses, some of them sincere, and others not. But at least you'll know who your true friends are, and can concentrate on them. Meanwhile, you might consider making some new friends. Not all people are as sociable as others. It doesn't mean they're trying to avoid you -- they just may be loners and don't crave constant companionship. It doesn't mean they don't like you or try to avoid you, unless of course you've given them some reason. I don't think so. You sound like a reasonable person. Just ask them and see what they say. My parents used to tell me not to stand on ceremony. In other words, if you have to be the one to initiate contact, so be it.....Better than no contact at all...
2006-09-12 15:13:57 · answer #1 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people are like this. I don't know why, but don't take it personally if they don't contact you. Could be they're just lazy. They probably view you as the leader who makes all of the plans.
People like yourself usually end up with a longer list of contacts, and a wider sphere of influence. Not to mention a fuller and more enjoyable social life.
If you have the energy, keep up what you are doing. If you are lucky, one or two of your friends will learn from your efforts and they will also keep contact. These will be your life long friends that you can trust.
2006-09-12 22:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by eddygordo19 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets keep it real. If they cared about you they would call you. You probably are a tag along. I know a few people like this. Stop trying to fit in and find people who really like to hang out with you. Maybe join a church or find an activity that you might find people like yourself. Maybe you spend to much time at work traveling and they know they cant depend on you. You might never be there for them and realize that you are just a part time friend. Hope this helps!!
2006-09-12 22:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by gnut 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U have no confidance. Don't be soooo needy. It turns people off. the more confidance you have the more people will gravitate towards you!
2006-09-12 22:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people don't really call my phone just to chit chat either. usually just when they wanna make plans or need hooked up or soemthing. a lot of people just don't like to waste time on the phone.
2006-09-12 22:02:12 · answer #5 · answered by bevis yo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know this is funny because u asked a question i wondered about my self,,, and what i concluded is you are in contact with the wrong people because real friends and people keep in contact with you. Don't condsider those people friends or anything else more i have went thru this and still am going thru this
2006-09-12 22:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by africacarey 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋