what is the best way to communicate with someone....?

Question

who does not like to talk? How do you get through to someone who will not listen to you or even make a comment back. Almost like talking to a wall. How do you get through without pis sing off the person.?

Answer 1

This might sound crazy, but what may work is for you to tell him how to respond. "If you agree, nod your head now." Just be sure to do this non-critically.

When talking, ask open-ended questions; he may simply not know when you are saying something he should answer. Ask how, where, when, and why questions, not questions that can be answered with a yes or no. Importantly, ask questions; women can speak to other women by making statements, and the other woman understands the kind of response you want. Men's brains aren't necessarily wired that way (although this guy sounds particularly bad at communicating). So, make it clear when you want a response by asking a specific question. When he does speak, give him behavioral rewards such as smiling, making eye contact, expressing interest in anything he says, and smiling; this will increase his behavior of talking.

Also, reduce distractions when you want to talk. Set up short times to talk (duration can be increased later), turn off the TV or music, and make sure the kids (if any) are in bed. Eating dinner together is a great time for this, but tell him lovingly that reading material (newspaper, for example) is not allowed at the table.

When you decide to have a conversation, be sure not only to spend time talking about things that are interesting to you, but also show an interest in what he likes and his activities. Validate the statements he makes, and, even if you're not interested in what he's talking about, act as though you are, at least at first.

He will start off saying little, but by following these guidelines, he will increase his verbalizations over time.

Answer 2

Say what it is that you want to say. My husband hates it, because when we're arguing I don't like to talk a lot. He thinks it's because I'm not listening (when in actuality I AM), it's just that Iike to think out what it is that I'm going to say, so that I can accurately get my point across, and also so I don't say something I don't mean, have something taken the wrong way and will regret later. I hear everything he says, and I like to come back and revisit it after I've had a chance to contemplate it, especially if it's something I feel is important. Drives him nuts...and sometimes he wants an instant resolution (which is usually impossible!), and he'll harp on it to the point that it DOES piss me off (that's when I say things I don't really mean...).

Simply have your say, have them acknowledge your concerns, and give them a little space. Ask if they need some time to think about things...

Answer 3

Get a plant and talk to that. If you are lucky the plant will pass the message on to him. Seriously, he needs to show more respect to you. No one likes to be ignored! Tell him you are not a psychic and he needs to communicate.Speech and thought are what separates us from the animals. Tell him to speak and if he does not go get him some pet treats.

Answer 4

They may not be answering back but they sure can listen with there ears & digest whatever you are saying!some people are like "i doe giver crap bou nunn" thats just d way they are, con't having patient.good luck

Answer 5

Calmly,no matter what.Look them in there eyes and say what you need to say.If you get no response don't worry about it,you've said what you needed to say.You could say hi and they'd get pissed off.Do what you need to do for yourself and if you have children for them as well.

Answer 6

tell them how important whatever you have to say is. make them listen, who cares if they get pissed off, you need to say it to them, so make sure that person hears you. if they don't care then give up and they'll regret not listening to you.

Answer 7

you may want to try violence