Just wondering is this a common fantasy? I dream about it every night. Anyone?
2006-09-12 14:31:21 · 21 answers · asked by Austin C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No because i made a committment to my husband and he to me to love,honor and stay only to each other till death due us part.
2006-09-12 20:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swinging is a common fantasy... For both men and women....
You can either keep it your private fantasy or share it with your husband, if your husband shares the same fantasy and you decide to explore making it a reality move very slowly and always make sure you are on the same page...
Fantasies are not cheating, we are not in control of our nocturnal fantasies (dreams) just enjoy them for what they are steaming hot personal foreplay... Nexttime you wake up from the dream use the sexual energy on your husband... I don't know a husband who doesn't enjoy waking up to a bj or handjob as a prelude to sex...
2006-09-12 14:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I have always had a fantasy about watching my partner have sex with another woman while I stood behind one of those glass windows/mirrors like in the cop shows. But ofcourse I would want to be able to join in at anytime. I don't think about it all the time but I have thought about it for a long time. My partner is up for it. I was thinking it'd make a nice gift for him after we have been together longer. Get a nice looking pro... yes - I fantasise about it!
2006-09-12 15:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by siapanther 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a common fantasy if your both up for it and willing to do it. But i have never wanted to be with another man and watch my husband with another woman. Were to dedicated and love one another to even think about something like that.
2006-09-12 14:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by BadAssGirlINWV 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the man's point of view I say yes. I would even be wiling to fore go the other woman for myself and just have my wife be with another man. It might have to be a stranger though, that I'm not going to run into. Maybe on an out of town vacation.
2006-09-12 14:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, my wife has been doing this for a couple years now and I gotta tell you, I wish she would have started years ago! The sex at home is the best ever. The outside sex can be very stimulating, but I guess that would depend on the individuals involved. We talk about it a lot, and that is hot too! Happily married 27 years now.
2006-09-12 17:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by mde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never watched him with another person and he has never watched me. I haven't cheated on him but I have thought about it. He says that he doesn't cheat but I catch him telling lies about stupid things and it makes me think that maybe he does cheat. He works out of town a lot and I have been asked out by this guy many times and I have thought about taking him up on the offer but I don't want to be known as a cheater. We aren't married but we have lived together for a few years now.
2006-09-12 14:42:45 · answer #7 · answered by SouthernBelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u would be ruining yourself and the people in and around you, even if this is a fantasy.
Our thought process is very powerful, if we have thoughts/fantasy of this type our mental balance system will get seriously damaged not today but sometime later.
If you make this is a joke, laugh and forget it!!!
If u treat this really there there is lots of disease around the corner.
ANY WHICH WAY YOU THINK ABOUT THIS, PLEASE ABSTAIN
2006-09-12 16:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by Venkatesh V S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It is a common fantasy, but some couples actually act upon it..... it's called "swinging". Could be a mutually satisfying way to launch your relationship to a level never yet known before....... or could kill it. Be very careful.
2006-09-12 14:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful I did that with an ex-boyfriend and it was cool while it lasted but the relationship fell apart because of it. Make sure you both talk about it first and be sure you all can agree on the ground rules if you decide to try it.
2006-09-12 14:37:20 · answer #10 · answered by Sailor Pluto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, and I feel there is nothing wrong w/ it.
If you are both secure w/ each other and are not the jealous type it can be very healthy for your relationship.
BUT, if either you or your husband/boyfriend are jealous don't mess w/ it or it will ruin your relationship and you will not workout as a couple.
2006-09-12 19:26:44 · answer #11 · answered by jaden2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋