well I've been with this guy on and off for 6 years and now he's locked up and his baby mama comes to c him every time she's suppose to bring his kids but never does and he's tellin me he loves me and he wants us to get married, and she's moved on I don't know whether to believe him or not b/c he was my first love.He tells me he's goin to see how I act now b4 he can tell me if we're goin to get married and I don't know if that's all a cover up or what. I go see him also though. Give me some good advice at what to do PLEASE!!!!
2006-09-12 14:26:59 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well jus cause u love him dont mean u have to be with him, and just cause she is going to see him doesnt mean he wants her, you need to tell him its your decision also as to wether or not you two get married so let him know he aint holdin the whole deck you got half of the spades and do he really wanna see who can get more books? cause baby your free i hate to sound like that because i love mah man and if he went to jail i would probally wait but i am the type that would confront the bisshhh and ask whats up with um - if u love him then no matter what you still have the option to remain his friend while he is locked up and keep money on his books, pictures, depending on where he is mag subscriptions. Just dont forget he is locked up and i would kill my ****** but he may b useing the bisssh then again thats not to say he wouldnt use you -
2006-09-12 14:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
like the akon song..."been locked up wont let me go, ohhh wont let me go...."
Here's the advice part: I myself do not consider it wise to get involved with someone who has done jail time (or prison for that matter), but I have high standards. All to often I think girls settle for some half-job because they get tired of waiting for their prince charming and lose hope. If he is your first love, sounds like he loved you or you loved him for quite a while now. But that "love" did not stop him from sleeping with another girl or girls (enter into the picture his "baby mama") and that "love" sure as heck did not keep him thinking straight enough to stay out of trouble (enter into the picture "jail time") I am not being judgemental in the least, I am sure he is a wonderful person, but is the right one for you? What if he gets into trouble again and has to do more jail time? Can you handle it? It's all on you girl. Just keep in mind it is not always about what you want, but sometimes also about what you need.
2006-09-12 21:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by Missy chandrasekar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got your self a real winner there and now it's up to you to prove to him how bad you want it. He knows that being locked up can be hell, but what makes it pass is when he knows there is someone who loves him dearly on the outside waiting for him.
This is your decision and you best make a good one at that.
And as far as he goes, he shouldn't be locked up to begin with. If he gives a damn about you he will do everything in his power to be responsible and never let that happen again. He's no good to being locked up.
2006-09-12 21:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a family member that has been in jail for 3 years with about 7 more to go he always is looking for girls to write to or girls to come see him he gets bored and lonesome and wants contact with people as many people as he can see thats understandable to me who knows what hes telling his baby mama but the question you should be asking yourself is why on earth should he be waiting to see how you will bhave i say run now find someone thats not so into them selves and have a happy life
2006-09-12 21:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why exactly do you want a guy that is locked up? The true test of time is weather or not he will be there for you on the outside. On the inside they always promise you forever and a day.
2006-09-12 21:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is some good advice Stay the hell away from people who are in jail. Jesus you would think that that fact that he was behind bars would give you a clue that he might not be good husband material
2006-09-12 21:30:56 · answer #6 · answered by david k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry a guy who gets in trouble with the law- your life will be miserable...as for the baby momma drama- you don't need the baggage- find someone normal- a radical concept, I know...
2006-09-12 21:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs.Foster 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A boyfriend in jail? Move on. Nobody needs all this drama in their life.There are plenty of men who are not locked up who don't play mind games.
2006-09-12 21:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
His baby momma??? Are you a complete moron? This guy is a locked up, prison bound loser. Dump him. Good God women of the world, are there really women out there that are this pathetic?
2006-09-12 21:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by angelofdreams19881 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ditch him. You admit this is an on and off relationship. Why would you waste your time with someone who is locked up?
2006-09-12 21:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by Cheryl S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋