i intercepted a call from a women i suspected and my husband said she was stalking him(from 1200 miles away) she left a squishy message about meeting and how she missed him and he didnt come home for those 4 days and tried to say at work but his work said he wasnt there then he said he was with 6 guy friends partying (yeah right) i havent let him come home and he owes my family alot of money and hes supposed to pay for my cosmedic tattooing class after my family helped him when he took his diving course mine is 50 hours and his was 7 months i was told to stick it out then decide i can NEVER forgive him i never did anything to deserve what he did to me and i know that wasnt the first time it was just the first time i got documented proof and i dont know what to do stay for all the wrong reasons or leave for all the right i at this point choose the latter but am in no position to do so at this time but after my schooling within a short period of time i will be
2006-09-12 13:57:18 · 22 answers · asked by parker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I want to first give you a dose of reality. For the many women who have stayed for the "wrong" reasons, there are many of them living with HIV and AIDS. There is no right reason to stay. A leopard can not change his spots. So let the dog get as many flees as he can, eventually he will be infected. You need to get out while you can. God will make a way for your classes to be paid for. Don't give up on what you want because of someone else's stupid actions. Love yourself enough to leave!
2006-09-12 14:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by LadyJ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this was me I would have to leave,You have to love your self,If you stay with some one who clearly doesn't love you,Then you are just asking to be walked all over.If they cheat once they will do it a hundred times.As far as the money he owes your parents,They can take him to small claims court.You may have to some how get him on tape saying he owes it to them and will pay it back,If they can't get it back from him,you may have to work something out with them to where you can pay it back over time.I would think that your parents wouldn't want you to stay in a bad marriage,one where you could end up with who knows what. So I would say run like crazy and don't look back.Remember tape everything you can or get it in writing.
2006-09-12 21:09:36 · answer #2 · answered by mytifine_01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters you don't have proof. You don't know what your BF did for those days. What you have are doubts. If you've asked your BF what's going on and you still have doubts then it's time to go. You cannot love a man you don't trust, spending more time pretending you can costs you more than any amount of money you loose in leaving. Stay his roomate of whatever until you can live on your own but end the relationship immediately.
2006-09-12 21:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you stay with a cheater who has done it multiple times? You need some self esteem so you can realize that he is using you.
I would let your family worry about his paying them the back money he owes, and use your family to fix your life up. That's what's family is for, to support you even when times are bad.
2006-09-12 21:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you all try marriage counseling. What have you go to lose? What he did was wrong but maybe you all can work things out thru a counselor. Most churches have free or lower price counseling available if money is an issue. Don't give up too quickly.
2006-09-12 21:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by Robin N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi my name is Carmen and if I was in your position I would leave him because if he did it once he'll do it again. You have every reason to leave for all the right reason. He was wrong for what he did to you and if my husband would have done it I would leave him to. Keep your head up and don't let no man bring you down girl. Your better then that. If you want you can add me to your yahoo OK it's carmen_rivera726. Bye and take care. Remember it's his loss not yours!!!
2006-09-12 21:11:29 · answer #6 · answered by carmen_rivera726 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every person has to make their own decision's,rather they feel that it's right or wrong is up to them,other people may have their own input on the situation but it's hard to take opinions for outsiders, myself I choose to stay with my husband after his affair, many people had allot of bad things to say about it but I had my reasons, I truly feel that my decision was the right one, it took some time though but now our marriage is stronger than it was before, and I do believe it will continue to get better, if you know that staying would be wrong, do what would be right!
2006-09-12 21:11:50 · answer #7 · answered by sunistao 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my honest opinion, you should leave him as soon as is good for you. he is worthless and a liar, and no matter how many times he says "I'll never do it again", he will. A zebra can't change his stripes, and you deserve better. As far as the money he owes you, take him to court. you should have no problem getting the money back! Good Luck to you
2006-09-12 22:11:48 · answer #8 · answered by jacksonville_scorpio32244 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave, no woman needs to be treated like your being treated. Go find you a new man and enjoy life! If you stay your just going to be miserable for the rest of your life.
2006-09-12 21:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by BadAssGirlINWV 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave him untill your finished with school however do find someone else and cheat on him like he did you while he is paying for you to go to school then when your finished making him pay let him know oh yeah and make sure you have sex with your new guy in his bed thats a real slap in the face
2006-09-12 21:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋