I'd like to know because recently I lost a good friend of mine, as well as several casual friends ( just the past 6 months).. Then today I found out that my pet fish died.. Usually I cope rather quickly, but this time around, I seem to be TOO preoccupied with thier passing. I can't concentrate on my studies, much less work, and even if i a m in the company of friends, i still feel empty... My friends have already done so much too keep me happy but I don't want to burden them with my grief anymore. I've talked to my family about it as well but I still feel the same way.. Any suggestions?
2006-09-12 13:56:25 · 10 answers · asked by Blessedarethecursed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Talk about it as much as you can to whoever will listen. They may not want to hear it, but you need to get it out. Trust me, my ex-boyfriend committed suicide on April 23rd of this year and at that time i did not think i was ever going to be able to make it during the day without crying all the time. I just started calling up old friends and telling them my story, I'd call up some of his friends even though i wasnt that close to some of them and just talk. I spent time with my mom just talking. You'd be surprised how much just talking to someone can help you out. Through me talking to others, i was able to comfort myself and move past some of the really tough issues and questions that would always be unanswered. I reflect daily on something that he and i did together and smile, and think to myself how lucky i was to have known him for the time that i did. And, thankful that i have those memories to reflect back on. I no longer cry, i think of him and smile and then say that i miss him. And, i remember that he will live on through me because i still have those memories.
2006-09-12 16:36:43 · answer #1 · answered by mrossi330 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly there is no real way to cope with loss - especially when it gangs up on you like that.
The best thing that you can do is go along with "business as usual." Really try not to think about it. Don't let it distract you from the other important things and people in your life because you don't want to lose your job or fail a class - that would make things even worse!
If talking with friends and family, or even talking with God doesn't work, you can consider talking with a counselor or therapist for a while. Sometimes it really helps to get something off of your chest to someone who is there to just listen to you, and they are also there to suggest ways to make you start thinking positive again.
2006-09-12 14:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me say that I am an old man. I have lost my mother, father, lots of uncle's and aunt's, not to mention grandparents and a whole bunch of great friends. It is not easy too deal with this as you know. I felt at one time I was like a person lost in a big cloud. What brought me into realization is the fact and it is a fact that no one can deny, that we are all destined to see death. Its hard to see someone go when they are young, but sometimes harder when they are older as a grand parent or such. It's a tough thing I know--but hold your head up and think positive. Thank God you have another day and hope u see tomorrow and maybe the ones you have lost>
2006-09-12 14:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by P/T Doctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five years ago, I lost the most precious person in my life(my daughter). It still hurt when I think about it. The grief never goes away when a loved one is lost, but there is ways to cope with it. The more you talk about it the easier it will become to talk about it. Talk to someone with experience with what you're feeling. It doesn't hurt to cry, either. Crying is not just for babies anymore.It is amazing how much weight can be lifted from your shoulders. Crying helps get out the frustration. God is always the key to success. Remember that!! There is nothing he can't fix or solve. Get on your knees and pray. Please be sincere. God is an awesome god whom is to not be played with. As I was standing at my daughter's gravesite watching them lower her into the ground, I turned to my father and asked him why must I be forsakened? What did I do to loose my first born child? He looked at me and said," Baby god's choir is made up of angels, and your daughter auditioned and got the part." That was his way of letting me know that god want good things for himself also. I still cry now when I think about her(as tears fall down my face). I talked to my father and friends all the time because it helps to ease the pain when I get discouraged. IF you ever feel like it is getting to be too much to handle email me at loretha_summers@yahoo.com. Keep in myind that god is just a prayer way and I am only an email way. Keep your head up and be sweet!
2006-09-12 14:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds.that and just staying busy and maybe talking with someone that you can feel comfortable talking with.Sorry for you loses.May GOD be with you and yours. You may also find comfort in writing your feelings down on paper.(journal)? I hope that this has helped.I lost my mom 5 years ago it does get better.
2006-09-12 14:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by oceanwvs2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to my dads house,[ where he died] to get closer it worked , I still miss him but I'm not crying all the time anymore or feel depressed. [it's been 10 months] and ''dance with my father'' still gets me.it takes time.
2006-09-12 14:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude i know how you feel. have you talked to them? that usually helps it clears some things out of the way. if they dont want to listen to you theres nothing you can do, they need to understand that your trying to work things out so they could at least listen. if that doesnt work also think about how its their fault so u can not think about them in that way anymore.
2006-09-12 14:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by lreyna13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a mourning journal for healing. A journal is patient and it will feel liberating to write about your sadness. Mourn as long as you need to...but learn to do it privately.
2006-09-12 14:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with both of the other answers i would also if in time you don't feel better maybe you need to see a therapist.
2006-09-12 14:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by yojo1991 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask God to come into your heart and speak to you through His word in the Bible--it has certainly worked for me.
2006-09-12 13:58:23 · answer #10 · answered by keepingthefaith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋