old son,how would any of you take that? I babysit him after school everyday .
2006-09-12 13:44:32 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Frankly as a man of 50 years I would be hurt that my own child was uncomfortable with me watching my own grandchild. As the child's grandfather I would be questioning her as to what has happened to my grandchild for her to have concerns because of my age. As her father and the man who has tried to protect her all her life, it is time to get to the bottom of things and deal with this.
2006-09-12 14:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by paul41956 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will ask you frankly the following questions: did you ever do anything inappropriate to your daughter while raising her? Did you do anything inappropriate ever to your grandson? Do you have an illness that makes you not a candidate for being an attentive babysitter? Do you abuse the child in any way?
If you answer to even just one of these questions with yes...then I wouldn't want you to watch my son either if you were my Dad.
If the answer to all of the above is no...without denial whatsoever
then I would ask her directly why- not us strangers here....because we don't know the dynamic of your family's relationship.
Kids are very verbal at the age of 7- do not underestimate kids...we live in the 21st century....they know when something isn't right and will convey it to Mom and Dad.
2006-09-12 21:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all take a deep breath and then go to her and tell her you will respect her decision but you would like to know why? Has something happened to the child to cause distrust, is he wanting to go somewhere else, does she feel she is burdening you with keeping him. It is natural to get upset and become defensive but remember this is your daughter and grandson and you don't want to say or do anything to damage the relationship you have with them. Talk to her that is the only way you are going to find out what is going on and chances are if nothing has happened it is her feeling like she is taking advantage of you, I know I don't feel comfortable with my mother always babysitting not because I don't trust her but because she did her time raising 5 kids already and I feel it is her time not time to take over with grandkids.
2006-09-12 21:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask why and take it from there. If it's just your age she's got problems.
1) Understand there may be some generational issues she has. If it is something other than that Well, I don't want to speculate with out knowing more.
2) Maybe you have higher values that she does not want to impose on her son, it doesn't make sense to me, but its her call so it's legitimate.
3) Her third problem is now to find a competent sitter.
2006-09-12 20:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she doesn't want you to raise him with the same beliefs that she grew up with or maybe you say things that she doesn't want her son to know. Or it could be a completely different thing... maybe shes worried that something can happen to you while you are babysitting and what is the kid going to do you know. There's different ways to look at this but you should try asking the boy if he likes being babysit-ted by you before you try asking your daughter.
2006-09-12 20:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by CLEO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May we assume you are watching her kid because she is isn't married and maybe never was? Otherwise the daddy would be sitting him. Tell her "good". Just wait until she gets the bill from the day care center. She is one mixed up person who has trouble trusting men (her problem, not yours) Now you have more time to solve those computer problems. (How much money have you given her in the past year?)
2006-09-12 21:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there has to be a reason why, ask her. Have you done anything to make her not trust you or think your incapable?
Communication is they key, just ask her.
Although, I don't think I would take that so well. I admit, I would be a little hurt. In any case, just ask her what is going on.
Good luck
2006-09-12 20:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by Trina S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would make me wander what is in your past to make her ask such a thing.or what has she been through with another man?Strange for her to just come out and say such a thing to you.has the boy had any problems in the past or now?. It would make me want some answers from her.
2006-09-12 20:48:41 · answer #8 · answered by oceanwvs2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your daughter. Is there something else you are not telling us, cause that does not seem right. My children call all the time to ask if I would watch the grandkids. Again, talk to your daughter.
2006-09-12 21:30:51 · answer #9 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know why your daughter would even mention it. I would ask her why are you making this type of statement. I have an 8 year old grandson and I know my daughter trust me with him.
I hope you and your daughter works it out before he gets older.
2006-09-12 20:55:51 · answer #10 · answered by homermisc2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋