My cousin is always "the popular and pretty one" shes my only ticket to popularity. well,its been only 1 week of Junior High and already has been going out with 2 guys. We are the same age,same grade,evreything and u can even think that were sisters and they always fall for her and she just started JHS. Im the ugly duckling between her and me. Im fat and chubby and overweight. Im always left out. I NEVER EVEN HAD A BOYFRIEND! I know im young but i never had a boy crush on me or anything and i've never been in the spotlight. no one has ever called me pretty. not even 1! I have only 1 friend left with my in JHS but in none of my classes her names Mandi. my cuzin's not even in the same class! Im all alone! Its hard making friends for me. Can any body give me advice?
2006-09-12 13:40:46 · 14 answers · asked by Yankees Chic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well if your icon is a real pic of you, I think you are a very pretty girl... Maybe it is not that the boys don't think you're attractive, maybe they're just intimidated by you. Does your cousin put out very flirty vibes? Boys may be getting the impression that she's easier to get a yes from. Believe me, that is not something you want to emulate. Boys yuor age don't have a lot of confidence in approaching girls, so they go for the "easier" girls. As they get older, they are going to appreciate a girl like you much more! Trust me! I know it's hard to wait for that, there's nothing I can say to make that easier, but just be true to yourself and enjoy being young. As boys see how fun you are they will crush on you, you just might not be aware of it...
2006-09-12 13:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by jhvnmt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been the pretty one either, but here's the deal. It's your chance to shine. Hit the books, don't just learn the subject matter but let your mind be opened up to learning and the next thing you know you will be the "handsome" (a term in my time used to mean not pretty, but also not ugly) woman with the really cool job and the really neat car. Boys, let 'em be. Date the geeks, after all there was no greater geek than Bill Gates.
2006-09-12 20:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by STeel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself. you need to stop putting yourself down. you need to stop comparing yourself with your cousin. you need to take steps.. to improve... yourself... if you are not happy..being what you call chubby... then do something about it. start being more active.. walking..biking... get away from the computer and t.v...more. stay away from fast food. drink more water. i am sure you are not an ugly duckling. GOD does not make ugly people. and you have to be beautiful inside... it is real important. in your heart and mind. so ask mom or grandma..to help you change your hair.. or clothes. i know a lot of gorgeous men and women who hated their school pictures.. who thought they were too fat..too thin... too tall...too short. this will change... but you have to stop acting like a victim. stop with the poor me, stop trying to center your life around mandi. she is probably very nice.. but you are also special... and there is plenty of time to have a boyfriend. right now you need an education. being in the spotlight.. for being honest and good..and smart... and trust worthy... now that is a awesome. and honey... you are your ticket...to anywhere you want to go. just hold your chin up... and start..telling yourself.. you are awesome..because you are
2006-09-12 20:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push anything. You're trying too hard to get attached. Junior high is also an awkward time where crushes and relationships mean nothing, and change frequently. Don't get down on yourself. And don't compare yourself to your cousin. I know at this age it feels as though you are going to be alone and single and unwanted forever, but trust me, its not true. Stop trying to force things to happen or getting down on yourself on things that aren't happening, and just let them fall into place. It will happen when the time is right.
2006-09-12 20:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by D S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it better to wait on the bf front as most teenage boys are wired very diffrently to teenage girls and are interested in a girl for very different reasons to a girl interested in a guy. I think being new is daunting to anyone no matter what their age but being young you will find that after a few weeks that friendships will begin to form.
so smile when other kids make friendly overtures and be thankful that you dont have the 'popularity pressures' on you which will allow you to develop your own personality in your own time.
i bet before christmas you will be writing a different story about your experiences tho.
2006-09-12 20:46:32 · answer #5 · answered by Aslan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might feel alone and left out now, but in a couple of years you will be having the last laugh. Focus on your grades and eventually you will be successful and they will be envious of you!
And don't worry about boys not having a crush on you, do you really like any of them anyway? Wait until someone really special comes along.
2006-09-12 20:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kathiiy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to hear about ur situation,but honestly u need to boost ur self confidence up.if u bring urself down people will do the same.don't worry about ur cousin let her have fun n watch her get in trouble,don't try n be like her.take life 1 day at a time n wuts for u will come to u.don't get caught up with boys n popular crowds.jus keep ur head up high go to school n do ur best.
2006-09-12 20:50:06 · answer #7 · answered by Sammie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not to be rude or nothing but maybe if you lost some wait/go on a deit, watch what u eat and get a makeover u wont have a problem in not being mean im just speaking my mind
2006-09-12 20:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by luvpurpleprinces 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl just give it time and relax...In the end the ugly duckling turns into a swan....
2006-09-12 20:52:09 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DONT EVEN TRIP just take it slow and one day ur gonna have what u want and ur cuzin is gonna want what u have dont even trip gurl!
2006-09-12 20:45:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋