Well ive been with this guy for almost 5 months. We love eachother alot, but when we fight i always feel like i wanna break up with him. Juss to add ive never felt completly comfortable with him. Also, he NEVER awnsers his Cell Phone. And Dont go thinking hes gonna cheat bc i kno he wont but, im very emotional and its hard. And he always says u can call me when ever and i do and i got a problem with callin him alot everday, and im tryin to break the habit but its all hard. I juss dont kno i mean sumdays i dont have a problem with him not awnserin then others times i do. im soo very confused. PLZ people help me. i feel like the one person i usually talk to i cant and im so very lost!
2006-09-12 13:35:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it almost sounds like he likes the thrill of you calling him.like he wants to see how many times you will call him a day.sit him down and ask him why he has offered you to call him and then does not answer his phone.sounds like a game to me.not a very nice one either.
2006-09-12 13:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by oceanwvs2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure sounds like you are having a rough go of it. Honey if you are not really comfortable with him, i might suggest you both take a break from each other for a while, just so you don't have to feel so confused all the time. I'm concerned about your emotional well being, and suggest maybe you talk to a councelor or your family doctor for some advise. You sound to me that you are heading for depression which is not healthy. If you go to school, maybe talk to the guidance coucellor there for some help. Take care of yourself
2006-09-12 20:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by Tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as far as the the calls to his cell phone, I'd only think about calling him with something really important, and leave a message if it's not on his voicemail or answer machine at home, if he lives with you, then try to save the lesser important questions for when he gets home.
as to why you feel like he's ignoring your calls, start by trying not to call him at all unless it's an absolute necessity, then work your way up and definitely try to limit how many times you call him, a one time "I miss you, and I'm thinking about you" call during the day is good. but if it's every couple of hours it'll get annoying. but if it's a call as to "can you pick up a couple of things from the store" or "could you pick up dinner on the way home" is OK too.
If there's a major problem then by all means call him, but you should think about how severe the problem is
I know a friend who is the same way, she calls her bf who is my best friend all the time just for no reason at all, she'll call him not even a minute after he pulls off in the car on his two-way phone, and it really bothers him; especialy if it's not an important reason.
fighting and arguing is always a part of a relationship, you're not always gonna see eye to eye on everything, and as for not feeling completely comfortable, tell him about it, he may not realize they whatever he's doing is making you uncomfortable. also, when he gets home, talk to him about why you feel like you can't talk to him. just be up front with him about how you feel. and maybe you two can find a solution to the problem.
2006-09-12 21:11:10 · answer #3 · answered by quiksilver8676 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're too emotionally attached to him and it's pushing him away. It's okay to be like that if the other person understands you and maybe he doesn't and just want to take a break. If you are not pleased with the way he is, find somebody else that enjoys the attention and will answer his phone when you call.
2006-09-12 20:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by LW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing a game with you, so call his bluff and don't call him for a while and see what happens. On the other hand, if you are not completely comfortable with him then it is not a good idea to stay with him. You have to have that comfort zone with the person that you care about, if you don't then it is not a full relationship, it is built on lies. That is just my thoughts.
2006-09-12 21:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if he isn't answering there is a reason. He either does not want to talk to you or he is talking to someone more important. Cut him lose and if he comes begging tell him your issues and if he does not agree to solve the problem move on. You will find someone worthy
2006-09-12 20:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not answering your phone calls I wouldn't have anything to do with him. that would drive me crazy. he's not the only fish in the sea. I would date other people so your not so focused on him. spend time with other friends activities and goals in your own life. the less you need a man the more attractive you will be to one and you'll end up with him (whomever he may end up to be) calling you and wanting to spend time with you. He could be just using you and playing with your feelings to get want he wants.
2006-09-12 20:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by Green Fairy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal to feel that way sometimes,but it all depends on what the fight is about.n wut u mean u neva felt completely comfortable,if u don't u shouldn't talk about luv.n something is definitely wrong if he neva answers his phone,think about it gurl!maybe u should try not callin him for a while n if he don't call u then u gone have to have a lil talk wit him!
2006-09-12 20:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by Sammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all don't put you trust in man but in god.he is your source.I don't know if you believe that or not .when you think about who has the answer know one is telling you what you want to here i know because ive been their but the more i prayed and start reading the bible it encourage me to go on when the were so many promises and it was all a lie. god will send you the right one if you wait on him and ask him he will do that put you prayer request in for what kind of husband you want and watch he willbe what god has for you.
2006-09-12 20:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by nicole o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sit him down and tell him what is on Ur mind and if he reacts badly break up then date someone else and make him jealous it always works and when u date the next person look better 4 him that would really make him jealous
2006-09-12 20:41:32 · answer #10 · answered by luvpurpleprinces 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋