I've given her a lovely home, two clever beautiful children, but no excitement over the years, got to rapped up in the future and negleted the present, I love her so much, really want the marriage to work, but we are living in seperate rooms, just being friends, she likes going out, having a laugh with her friends and drinking, I like staying in with the children and being with her. I'm in love with her, but she isn't in love with me, she said I was perfect, husband/father/lover, but she isn't in love with me. I'm desperate to win her back, because the more she rejects me, the more I fall in love with her and want her more.
2006-09-12 13:23:05 · 9 answers · asked by saxons_uk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wisk her away to paris!
this is what happens when people don't focus on the center of the family, the mother, the wife
2006-09-12 13:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by wilowdreams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sad but it seems like more and more this is so common these days. Even among younger people. If she really is honest then she may i stelling you the truth but my view has always been That you can't have your cake and eat it to. If what she is doing is destroying you then why in the hell are you putting up with it. (for the children) Something has got to give. If you really want to win her back, try remembering what it was that made you fall in love in the first place and try to mentally get back to that place. Do something utterly romantic, and if your caring and passionate ways do not win her love then I am sorry to say it is time to leave. I think it is unhealthy to live in that kind of enviroment. Good Luckl!!
2006-09-12 20:30:10 · answer #2 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with her, tell her that you love her, and try to come up with some compromises. She likes to go out, you like to stay in, ask her to go on a date some night, make her feel special. Send her flowers at work, try doing something romantic that will make her realize how much you love her, and also be willing to give her space to go out with the ladies, and you go out with the guys. If it continues after that, I would say check out some counseling.
2006-09-12 20:30:36 · answer #3 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU KNOW WHAT ITS THE MIDLIFE CRISIS US WOMEN GO THRU AT 40 IF SHE HAD TO DO THE WIFEY THINGS AT AN EARLY AGE AND NO FUN JUST HOME WORK KIDS SHE IS GOING THRU THE MIDLIFE CRISIS AND SHE TRYING TO FIND HER SELF JUST BE THERE WHEN SHE FIND OUT THAT SHE ISNT MISSING ANYTHING SHE WILL COME BACK AND BE PROUD OF IT JUST HOPE IT WONT BE TO LATE FORHER CAUSE IT MAY TAKE A MINUTE AND IF YOU LOVE HER YOU WILL BE THERE OR MOVE ON GOOD LUCK
2006-09-12 20:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by Judy D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will not win her back unless you take charge of your life . A woman likes a man to excite her bring out the big guns do something fun together
2006-09-12 20:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try being her boyfriend again. Take her on dates to nice restaurants, make out with her in the back of the cinema or in the back seat of your car. Do all those things that you did with her when she fell in love with you and decided to marry you.
Good luck :)
2006-09-12 20:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her rejection over and over. Prove to her that she is the boss. Work hard on things she would appreciate. Eliminate your ego and worship her.
(when you have her back, go back to normal a bit-- just a bit)
2006-09-12 20:32:13 · answer #7 · answered by troyboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that's tough. I would suggest marriage counseling. How did you win her over in the first place? Maybe you just need to back track to those days and try it again.
2006-09-12 20:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should call her or met up with her and tell all the memories
that you and her had been throw...and tell her that you still love her....or you know what justed move on
2006-09-12 20:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋