I feel awful what should i do?? :(?

Question

Well about a year a go i met a guy at work and he started to like me. Then I started to like him and he eventually gave me my first kiss. Well I always wondered why he woulnt call me that much cuz he always says that he does "like" me. But then I found out today that he is in LOVE with his ex. I feel terrible. After he told me that i told him it was funny cuz they wa he feels about her is the way i feel .Ive always loved him and he is my 1st love. I feel like an idiot now but I feel like now that he knows i have to avoid him. I really dont want nothing to do with him because seeing him will only bring back the feelings. So what should i do to make myself feel better? I cant stop crying :(

Answer 1

Well Dede It happens when emotions dominate you. You started liking him even before you knew about him.

You were true to your emotions but he wasnt or to say he coudnt get over the love for his ex. Yours is first love I know how precious is it for everyone. There is no rule that the guys is also first love.

I see something good in between. See in his love with his 'ex' he might be true but there should be some reason for her to become 'ex'. If the ex is not really ex and he still continues the relation with her then you better keep away. Else you can try to fit in the place of ex and try to be somethin that ex could not be for him.

You should not feel idiotic. It happens when the feelings or emotions rule your mind. Your feelings are genuine. You should be happy and proud about that. I know it hurts when some one plays with your feelings. Girls have a way to let out this by crying.

Because his thoughts are allover your mind and you cant stop thinking of him. This is what happens in love. Try to replace his thoughts from your mind slowly. You will be fine. Take a good shower a favourite meal and a good sleep. You will feel better the next morning. All you have to do is not think of him even when he is infront of you.

Remain as you are. Do not change the way you look at men because of this. You have many guys looking out for such love. But watch out for true lovers like you only.

Answer 2

Love is a very hard emotion to overcome, but if you devote effort to it, it can be done.

Firstly, don't avoid him. Try to talk to him and have normal conversations with him as if you are just acquaintances. If you start crying, just keep trying to talk. Don't let yourself feel emabarassed. Be brave. Try again the next time you see him. Eventually you will be able to talk to him without it hurting so much and you will be able to move on. The only way to overcome problems is to stay and face them. Running away just postpones the inevitalbe.

I wish you good luck. The first love was a harsh experience for everyone. But all of us who made it through are the stronger for it. We are all rooting for you.

Answer 3

Hey Sweetie its rough to be in your position but you have to think about the big picture. This is only your first experience and its only gonna get better from here. So be proud and happy that the first experience was so intense even though it didn't end as well as you hoped, Just think at how low the success rate of first loves are and you'll start to see things very differently. Look at him as training wheels. Its good practice for your real lover whenever he comes along

Answer 4

Get over your "first love" and move on to your second. That's why a lot of companies do not allow dating within their employees. You can apply for a different job so you won't have to see him. Or you can realize that he was using you and hurt your feelings. Just be happy it didn't go any further. If you have to see him, be professional but don't let him see how you feel. And quit crying, that never solved anything. Good luck.

Answer 5

The first one is always the hardest. As life gets even more difficult, for some reason, you feel it less and less.

You get used to disappointment. You also have to get used to feeling like an idiot. No one is perfect. We're all screw ups one way or another.

Hang it. Life gets worse. This is nothing.

Answer 6

Go out with your friends and try to meet other people, keep yourself busy, take up a hobby or a class. Give it time but definately avoid him - it'll be easier that way and you'll be able to move on eventually. Remember, there's many fish in the sea and as there's a saying in Spanish "un clavo saca otro clavo" (One nail pulls out another nail).

Answer 7

First, find something that will take your mind off of the situation. Start a project, remodel your room or help a friend do the same. Volunteer at your local church, or mission. That alone will make you feel better. Next find a new man to look at.

THERE WILL BE MORE. TRUST THAT!

Answer 8

well u have nothing to do except to forget him and i know that could be very hard but u have to move on and look for love somewhere else .well to make urselfe feel better is to know deep inside that there is a guy outhere that will love and worships you and u would feel the same way about him its just a matter of time

Answer 9

don't trip it probably wont work out with his ex.
and he is your first love but not your last so you need to move on to the next.

my little story:
this guy Jose that i thought was the love of my life, we broke up. i dated this other guy and i was 17 years old.
i still had hard feeling for this guy so i broke up with this other guy.
i got back with Jose and it did not work out.
after not being with him for a few months he changed and broke up for almost the same reason as we did the first time.
he joined the army and left.
6 months later i met this other guy i really liked and i was still hurt from Jose so i didn't give it my all.
6 years later (almost 24 years old) i am still with that guy and have 2 daughters with him.

first loves are not meant to last but they are made for you to learn to love.
so just grab a box of tissues, cry it out cuz its gonna hurt, and slowly move on.
good luck

Answer 10

I know you love this guy but hes a total jerk.

Sorry. No offence though.
These type of guys are not worth your tears dear.
A guy who totally loves you wouldnt let you cry nor hurt your feelings.
Its difficult to get over your 1st love moreover with a jerk like him.
I know its a lil contradicting but try to forget him.
He doesnt know whats best for him is you.
Good Luck!
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