a guy from my wife job has been riding home with her and her sister from work and i was not told but had to find out by her sister saying it by mistake so i called my wife on break and was upset about it do you think she was wrong for not telling me that a guy from her work rides home with them
2006-09-12 13:15:16 · 15 answers · asked by kimbriang 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She thought it was no big deal.People do this all the time. Its just car pooling.
2006-09-12 13:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by Vito-V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a harmless oversight. But if she intended for you to not know about it, then she was wrong for not telling you.
Honestly though, if she's not alone with him for any longer than it takes to drop him off, then I wouldn't think that you have anything to worry about.
You do have every right to be upset, but sometimes if you make it known that you are upset when you question someone, then it automatically makes them defensive as well - which could lead to bigger problems over something stupid.
What you really need to do is have a heart-to-heart with your wife. Don't be mad going into it though, just talk with her - a down to earth conversation about the situation at hand. Ask what you need to ask, and listen to her answers - you will be able to find out a lot more of the story if neither of you are all worked up and upset.
Good luck!
2006-09-12 13:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you being a little over protective and jealous. What do you think is really happening, your wife and sister doing this guy in the car on the way home? Come on now, give you wife a break, apologize to her and tell her that you love her very much and she is so beautiful that you sometimes feel insecure because of her beauty. She can not stay mad at you if your sincere. Good Luck.
2006-09-12 13:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She Should Have Told You That She Is giving A guy A Ride Home From Work.Be Honest About Everything In Your Relationship!Have An Heart To Heart!
2006-09-12 13:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by lisababyg ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I really do think she was wrong for not telling you she is your wife she has no right having another man in the car anyways give a woman rides home and not tell her see how she feels that stuff isn't right I couldn't hide anything from my husband that just ain't right
2006-09-12 13:45:21 · answer #5 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is wrong if she was unfaithful with this man! Sometimes we think its best not to say anything because were afraid that our spouse will get mad and take it the wrong way. But in all actuality, when you hide something and it comes out then you look guily because you never said anything before!
i think that you should talk to her and ask her why she felt like she couldn't tell you something like this! Marriage is about trust. If you are a jealous person then I can see why she didn't tell you! She was probably scared that you would get upset and freak out basically!
2006-09-12 13:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by heyThere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds strange to me. If there's nothing going on then why didn't she just tell you he was riding home with them?
Unless you're a very jealous person and she was afraid you'd get mad.
2006-09-12 13:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See, this right here is why women shouldn't work. Of course she was wrong. It can only mean trouble that she didn't tell you. Dishonesty in a marriage is a huge red flag.
2006-09-12 13:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Cybeq 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems to me there is a trust issue on both sides if she was not doing any thing wrong in her own eyes then she would have told you instead of her sister
2006-09-12 13:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't worry about it. she didn't tell you because she didn't want you to be upset. how much trouble could she get into with this guy and your sister-in-law is in the car?
2006-09-12 13:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by denavirgo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋